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This is a really stupid thing, but I want to write it out of my head.. (Sorry for any typos)I was eating at a restaurant on Friday where a nice member of the staff came to greet me and suddenly asked what I've been up to lately. I was so surprised by the question that I couldn't say anything reasonable! I just said something like: Well, nothing special. To which this guy said: I guess you're doing more than just going here to eat! I nervously answered stuttering again: Well, nothing special.. I'm just living an ordinary human life.. This guy just said: It's good that it's an ordinary life, nothing unusual. I just answered again: Yes.. exactly. I left the place in shame and I have been ashamed of my stupid freezing and words all evening and still! I don't dare show my face anymore, at least when that guy is there on duty! I could see from his look that he thought what the h*ll I am, when I can't speak normally like other people! I could have told him anything about my days and my activities, but.. I try to be social, but I don't always succeed. Then when this happens, I'm sad, ashamed and I regret such things even for severalyears!
Quote from: Heart Of Midnight on August 25, 2023, 03:53:02 PMThis is a really stupid thing, but I want to write it out of my head.. (Sorry for any typos)I was eating at a restaurant on Friday where a nice member of the staff came to greet me and suddenly asked what I've been up to lately. I was so surprised by the question that I couldn't say anything reasonable! I just said something like: Well, nothing special. To which this guy said: I guess you're doing more than just going here to eat! I nervously answered stuttering again: Well, nothing special.. I'm just living an ordinary human life.. This guy just said: It's good that it's an ordinary life, nothing unusual. I just answered again: Yes.. exactly. I left the place in shame and I have been ashamed of my stupid freezing and words all evening and still! I don't dare show my face anymore, at least when that guy is there on duty! I could see from his look that he thought what the h*ll I am, when I can't speak normally like other people! I could have told him anything about my days and my activities, but.. I try to be social, but I don't always succeed. Then when this happens, I'm sad, ashamed and I regret such things even for severalyears! Nothing to be ashamed of. He was the weird one imo! In Sweden we don't chit chat with staff! We don't make small talk with strangers. We barely even say hi to our next door neighbours! I would have stuttered as well as its so far out from my comfort zone being asked such questions by a waiter. I had a sense it's similar in Finland but I might be wrong?
HOM as others have said, he was the weird one, not you. You go to a restaurant to eat good food without having to cook it or wash dishes yourself, not to chit-chat if you don't want that. I'd have been, mate, I'[m here to EAT, not talk!!! I hate people seeing me eat as I have things happen when I eat which can offend some people (my nose goes when I eat anything so I either have to blow it - & I was brought up to never leave the table while eating a course - or I have to open my mouth, even subtly, to breathe, which is also considered offensive), plus I was also brought up to not talk with food in my mouth. So I'd much prefer to eat in peace. I also have heard of the Scandinavian policy of not chatting to strangers, so extra weird there too
Wow. Maybe he thinks you're someone else? Are you and your husband doppelgangers? --My complaint right now is my head. It's been hurting all day. It's an odd sort of headache, not one of my usuals. My implant is very itchy also. It's keeping me up. I tried to go to sleep but any way I put my head the pain was there. It feels slightly better if I sit up. I've taken headache meds, but I took some earlier in the day and they didn't do much. I've been drinking water so I don't think it's dehydration. Maybe... allergy? My sinuses hurt when I push on my cheeks and my eyes are red and itchy. Hmm. Whatever it's from I wish it would go away.