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As for the serious tone of the thread, I think that was natural? There are a lot of ASD pony collectors and we all have different experiences Also, the reality is that not many people generally ask *our* view on Autism in any regard. They ask specialists, professionals, experts. Sometimes family members of people with ASD - but unless they have it too, none of them actually know what it's like to live with it. They live with someone with it, which is a different situation and stress position. If you live with someone with it, you are supporting them, but you can still walk out of the room and leave the ASD somewhere else. If you live with it, you can't do that. And far too often people ask only the one set of opinions, and not the opinions of the people who know best.There seems to be a general misconception among areas of mainstream media in various places that having ASD immediately makes you unable to comment, judge or have any kind of point of view.So threads like this are ways we can actually speak for ourselves and try and kill some of those prejudices and assumptions. Thus here we all are, spamming your thread with our experiences Then again, ponies and ASD are obviously a connection. So in that light, maybe it's not off topic? I mean, from my point of view, I can't remember not having ponies. And ponies marked key events in my life. When my sister was born, when my mum was ill, when I graduated...all these things. So in a way, ponies became markers of milestones that are, in their own way, achievements of living with ASD in spite of the large amount of misinterpretation that still exists regarding it.
I visited with my dad, and he's odd.... he will not have a conversation, he hates small talk or any topic that does not interest him (not my favorite thing either.... but I know you can't just walk off mid conversation because you are bored! my dad is the absent minded professor). but he loves quizzing. he asked me geography questions and I answered them all correctly, and a quiz about the US because of an article he read and I knew more about the states then the general populous of USA as adults according to that article. He was expecting me to do poorly."You were terrible at geography in school. Terrible. I never was able to help you. What changed?" So I explained in school it was boring and irrelevant. I didn't know why I needed to care about a gross national product of a country I have no interest in seeing, or didn't connect to me. and I had zero interest in most travel. so I bombed that class. It's all due to ponies, which is embarrassing. Each country he asked about I either read about a line of ponies made there (and some I own- so like early Italy ponies) so also learned a bit about the area. others I had bought or sold to people from that country so looked up what I could for how the pony would travel. I was telling him my pony related stories connected to each place and now he thinks I'm crazy.
Quote from: lovesbabysquirmy on March 19, 2016, 08:04:26 AMHmmmm I would prefer not to be diagnosed or labelled. Other people's diagnoses' is none of my business. I treat people like human beings, not according to how psychiatry manuals advise that certain individuals should be gently handled. If you like ponies and you're here, that's fine by me. Don't expect to be treated any differently than anyone else, because we are here for our love of ponies!That's how everyone should treat each other. The same. We're all just people. My mother always said to treat others the way you want them to treat you. It's a rule I live by.Tikibirds: the only reason I went and got an official diagnosis is because I wasn't getting by. I needed extra help and in order to get it I had to swallow any pride I had left. To get help you have to jump through a lot of hoops.
Hmmmm I would prefer not to be diagnosed or labelled. Other people's diagnoses' is none of my business. I treat people like human beings, not according to how psychiatry manuals advise that certain individuals should be gently handled. If you like ponies and you're here, that's fine by me. Don't expect to be treated any differently than anyone else, because we are here for our love of ponies!
Well in that case, I'm very happy to have been of some help by starting a topic so many of you feel so strongly about and I'm really glad it has given you the opportunity to speak about it
I was not a nice guy and was responsible for people treating me badly, and I finally began to try to do better, which has to happen every day with each interaction. For example I can't even ask an eBay seller for a better price on a beatup pony without offending him and getting a jerk response. The only difference now is that instead of escalating, I looked back at my own words and could see that it was my fault. The "golden rule" is to treat each other as we wish to be treated...but I personally fall short and have to constantly double-check myself.
Personally I've found that it helps for me have a diagnosis. Being able to justify to myself why I'm feeling a certain way about something. It also helps to be able to tell someone that you have Aspergers when you've just broken down in front of them. Perhaps some people will understand why you're crying without you telling them but being able to say the three words "I have Aspergers" is just such a relief for me. Once that's said I can ignore worrying about offending them and concentrate on calming myself.
Lostpony, from what you wrote (unless I've misinterpreted it) it sounds as if the issue was how you came across to others, rather than your intentions being off. That most definitely doesn't make you "not a nice guy" as you say. I think that as long as your intentions are good and fair, then you are not at fault. You may have issues with getting those intentions across, but as you said, you can work on that.I have a similar problem in that I simply cannot stand up for myself (even in the face of gross unfairness) without either crying (and therefore coming across as pathetic and ineffectual and thereby irritating people) or being far too blunt and offending people. I simply cannot do the whole "calm but firm" thing in a face-to-face scenario such as you may get at work. I have found that the only way I can deal with any kind of grievance I may have is if I am able to write it down. Where possible, that is what I will do. I find I can communicate extremely easily and effectively when I write, but just crumble completely in a face-to-face situation. We are all different, but that is one of my major issues.So, lostpony, I don't know if I've understood you quite correctly, but it sounds as if you are being a little too hard on yourself. You don't seem like "not a nice guy" at all, you may just have issues with that ever-complex thing...communication : )
I will say from experience finding out for the first time shattered my world as none of my siblings have it. I am now just accepting of it, and realize it is a part of me for good or ill.
It can be the best parts of you. I try to focus on that. My house is always clean and we overflow with creativity.
I feel the need to underscore also that ASD is not a mental illness,. It can open people up to mental illness comorbidities, but in my view 90% of anxiety and depression in asd people comes from them trying to meet the unreasonable expectations of society to fit in.