I'm going to be nosey! Gender identity...?

[Lore-Lei]

I also have a friend who is 'trans-species' as in she identifies herself as a cat! xD

I'm pretty sure you meant she's an otherkin.

[HollowZero]

Labels are so so important to have. For so many people having a label means no longer feeling broken and lost. Please don't dismiss that.

Labels are important for some. Labels are overimportant for others. Labels are a terrible problem in society. I do not care to label myself in any way, whether it be religion, sexuality, gender. And it infuriates me to see posts on tumblr saying things like "you are a monster if you don't put your pronouns on your about page".

This is why I just post art there and nothing else. Everything has to fit in a box. Everything needs to have a label so they can associate with who they want to and avoid "the other" whatever that may be.

I'm a stranger on the internet. That's the long and the short of it.

[ponycake]

Labels are so so important to have. For so many people having a label means no longer feeling broken and lost. Please don't dismiss that.

Labels are important for some. Labels are overimportant for others. Labels are a terrible problem in society. I do not care to label myself in any way, whether it be religion, sexuality, gender. And it infuriates me to see posts on tumblr saying things like "you are a monster if you don't put your pronouns on your about page".

This is why I just post art there and nothing else. Everything has to fit in a box. Everything needs to have a label so they can associate with who they want to and avoid "the other" whatever that may be.

I'm a stranger on the internet. That's the long and the short of it.

Yeah I refuse to jump on that as well. Tumblr has gone through some odd phases. Like the widespread cissexual hate posts that you couldn't miss a while back.

[Strawberry Swirl]

People say you suck if you don't put pronouns on your profile...? Man, what's up with that?
Although it's a good idea to have 'em somewhere so people can know....lol you're not a bad person if you don't

also @ponycake, it's cisgender/cis. Being cis is a part of your gender identity, not sexual orientation. 

[gold.standard]

People say you suck if you don't put pronouns on your profile...? Man, what's up with that?
Although it's a good idea to have 'em somewhere so people can know....lol you're not a bad person if you don't

also @ponycake, it's cisgender/cis. Being cis is a part of your gender identity, not sexual orientation. 

Man, yeah that is weird. I always thought it was just the easy and polite way to do for your profile so people can know and not worry about misgendering you. I've personally haven't seen people be aggressive about it, but if there are some out there that are, that's totally not cool.

[mlp4me]

I am female, but not a girly girl by any means.

[Princess Lala]

Oh, I had no idea about Otherkin or Therian! My friend is pretty hardcore, she even has those 200 dollar japanese animatonic cat ears that rotate depending on emotion and wears a cat collar! Its actually pretty cute! I only get to see her at conventions but she is wicked cool!

[Strawberry Swirl]

Oh, I had no idea about Otherkin or Therian! My friend is pretty hardcore, she even has those 200 dollar japanese animatonic cat ears that rotate depending on emotion and wears a cat collar! Its actually pretty cute! I only get to see her at conventions but she is wicked cool!

Totally jealous! I'd totally get one of those if they came in bear flavor, also less spendy...

[gold.standard]

Totally jealous! I'd totally get one of those if they came in bear flavor, also less spendy...
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I remember seeing ones for sale at a con and they had enterchangable ears! So even if they don't sell bear ones, making your own/commissioning someone is totally possible!
I've been meaning to save up for a pair myself and make some pony ears for it!

[Princess Lala]

These! She has the black ones! xD I want a pair for myself!  I kind of understand otherkin pretty well, there are plenty of times I feel like a cat myself! :3 http://www.necomimi.com/WatchTheVideo.aspx

[Strawberry Swirl]

Ah! They have snow leopard ears...



Sorry to be off topic lol!

[The_Loner]

Ok, here goes posting this...
This is a really interesting thread for me as this is something I'm struggling with. I'm neither girl nor boy though born as female but I'm really uncomfortable with my body and want to get it fixed. Most of the time I relate better to boys and I would much rather have a male body minus the genitalia (I'm asexual). It is pretty cool seeing there are other people on this forum with similar issues to mine as I always feel very alone with this. My parents love and respect me for who I am but I have a hard time explaining to them what it's like not feeling like your assigned gender.

What I find interesting is some of the studies on male/female brain, and how this can impact the way in which people react.

I'm also autistic and I know a lot of people with autism find it harder to identify within the gender stereotypes of people without autism because a lot of social stereotypes and norms for these genders don't apply with autism.

It is very interesting you should mention this. I have autism too (AS). It is believed that the autistic brain is the ultimate male brain and I think that's a factor in why I relate better to males than females. Also statisticly there are twice as many females with autism who feel like the other gender than females without autism.

I'd say I'm neither. I have female body which is causing me discomfort and I'm waiting to get it fixed. Explaining all this to doctors was quite of a pain. All that "are you sure? It's the depression talk" and my favourites "you are too young" and "of course you want children". Try to explain to someone who isn't willing to listen... I usually say that I'm more male than female to avoid questions.

I wear dresses and skirts and "girly stuff" but "male clothes" as well. My clothes.

I really hate when people think they know what you want! They have no way of knowing what you want, only YOU know what you want! I'm happy for you you made it through all that! I have it ahead of me.

[Harmonie]

Oh, I think I have a pretty good understanding of gender identity when it comes to identifying as the opposite gender than the one you were assigned at birth. It's the 'others' (nonbinary, bigender, etc.) that are a bit hard for me to understand.

Oh...in that case, how can I help? :0

Hm... I don't know... It's just that I saw all of the different terms and it made my head spin a little... o.O I can fully understand that there's more than the gender binary, I just sometimes get lost with all of the terms that people have come up with, a lot of them blur together for me.

Sorry if I'm being offensive. Just trying to understand. >.<

[melodys_angel]

Humm..

A bit of a heads up.  Best not to assume one identifies themselves as an 'otherkin' if you see them with those ears or something similar.  You might just poke the bear.

If it was me (and yes, if they weren't as spendy I would totally go for a pair) I would be offended that one would jump to the conclusion when I would wear them because I think they are cute or coincide with a certain style I may like.

I respect what others feel or identify themselves with (same for anything, really, as long as you aren't harming yourself or others).  I expect the same for me <3

[Strawberry Swirl]

Humm..

A bit of a heads up.  Best not to assume one identifies themselves as an 'otherkin' if you see them with those ears or something similar.  You might just poke the bear.

If it was me (and yes, if they weren't as spendy I would totally go for a pair) I would be offended that one would jump to the conclusion when I would wear them because I think they are cute or coincide with a certain style I may like.

I respect what others feel or identify themselves with (same for anything, really, as long as you aren't harming yourself or others).  I expect the same for me <3

Princess Lala said that her friend is otherkin before she mentioned the ears, jsyk. :o