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Quote from: Icecrystalline on December 12, 2012, 09:29:40 AMQuote from: ashes on December 12, 2012, 09:26:17 AMQuote from: Galactica on December 11, 2012, 05:19:32 PMThe issue of whether young girls should wear revealing clothing or not is a disturbing topic. I find it sad that society would sooner have us blame the 8 year old (or her mom) for looking "sexy" rather than the man looking at that 8 year old as a sex object. Something wrong with that... Parents have a responsibility to rear, protect, and teach their children - so yes, I can blame a parent for having their young child wear clothing that is inappropriate for their age. And men who look at children as sex objects probably still will do so, regardless of what the children wear. (And I wish I could lock up everyone who commits any act of violence or sexual abuse against children - there is no excuse for it).I have to agree with this entirely, it is the parents responsibilty up to a certain age, to protect the child and to ensure they are dressed appropriately, as to what age this is, that is a topic of great debate, but there is a certain requirement of parents to protect their children and ensure they are not dressed promiscuously. That's what I feel anyway, it's a sad world we live in that children are allowed to dress inappropriately in clothing that some adults wouldn't even wear in public. That is exactly the argument against women wearing certain clothes! It makes me so angry. You know what, perverts are perverts regardless of what people wear. I once had a guy say to me "I wasn't perving on your kid I was just trying to read what his jacket said" It was the single most creepy thing I've ever had a person say to me. Why would I expect he was perving? It makes me think he was. And you know what my son was wearing. Winter snow clothes. As concealing and non-sexual as possible. Yes, parents should protect their children. That means physically being around them and not putting them in dangerous situations. Not stifling their sense of self. Not teaching them sex is evil. Not slut shaming themselves and others. Actually, physically protecting them.
Quote from: ashes on December 12, 2012, 09:26:17 AMQuote from: Galactica on December 11, 2012, 05:19:32 PMThe issue of whether young girls should wear revealing clothing or not is a disturbing topic. I find it sad that society would sooner have us blame the 8 year old (or her mom) for looking "sexy" rather than the man looking at that 8 year old as a sex object. Something wrong with that... Parents have a responsibility to rear, protect, and teach their children - so yes, I can blame a parent for having their young child wear clothing that is inappropriate for their age. And men who look at children as sex objects probably still will do so, regardless of what the children wear. (And I wish I could lock up everyone who commits any act of violence or sexual abuse against children - there is no excuse for it).I have to agree with this entirely, it is the parents responsibilty up to a certain age, to protect the child and to ensure they are dressed appropriately, as to what age this is, that is a topic of great debate, but there is a certain requirement of parents to protect their children and ensure they are not dressed promiscuously. That's what I feel anyway, it's a sad world we live in that children are allowed to dress inappropriately in clothing that some adults wouldn't even wear in public.
Quote from: Galactica on December 11, 2012, 05:19:32 PMThe issue of whether young girls should wear revealing clothing or not is a disturbing topic. I find it sad that society would sooner have us blame the 8 year old (or her mom) for looking "sexy" rather than the man looking at that 8 year old as a sex object. Something wrong with that... Parents have a responsibility to rear, protect, and teach their children - so yes, I can blame a parent for having their young child wear clothing that is inappropriate for their age. And men who look at children as sex objects probably still will do so, regardless of what the children wear. (And I wish I could lock up everyone who commits any act of violence or sexual abuse against children - there is no excuse for it).
The issue of whether young girls should wear revealing clothing or not is a disturbing topic. I find it sad that society would sooner have us blame the 8 year old (or her mom) for looking "sexy" rather than the man looking at that 8 year old as a sex object. Something wrong with that...
That being said, I believe there's a difference between embracing your sexuality/appearance and being forced to look sexualized for society's benefit. Children, men, women, they can all dress how they please. I just have a problem when society pretty much dictates that girls are supposed to be a pretty face and then people complain that girls and women are dressing too provocatively.
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That is exactly the argument against women wearing certain clothes! It makes me so angry. You know what, perverts are perverts regardless of what people wear. I once had a guy say to me "I wasn't perving on your kid I was just trying to read what his jacket said" It was the single most creepy thing I've ever had a person say to me. Why would I expect he was perving? It makes me think he was. And you know what my son was wearing. Winter snow clothes. As concealing and non-sexual as possible. Yes, parents should protect their children. That means physically being around them and not putting them in dangerous situations. Not stifling their sense of self. Not teaching them sex is evil. Not slut shaming themselves and others. Actually, physically protecting them.
There is nothing that says "sex is evil" by having them dress appropriately for their age. Sex is not appropriate for children. And having them dress in a manner that is wholesome and uplifting IS protecting them - it encourages them to be proud of their self worth and that they are more than sex objects.
Quote There is nothing that says "sex is evil" by having them dress appropriately for their age. Sex is not appropriate for children. And having them dress in a manner that is wholesome and uplifting IS protecting them - it encourages them to be proud of their self worth and that they are more than sex objects. I have to agree with this. Making sure that your children dress appropriately is not 'slut shaming'. A child can express themselves without the need for inappropriate dress. And if they can't, if the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves is wearing inappropriate clothing, I believe there are bigger issues happening. Children push their boundaries. In my view it's my job as a parent to gauge how far to let them push and when to step in and push back. To me that is just part of being a parent, recognizing that sometimes I have the experience and knowledge to know what is best for my little one when they have other ideas about what they should and should not be allowed to do.
And if they can't, if the only thing that makes them feel good about themselves is wearing inappropriate clothing, I believe there are bigger issues happening.
The fact you see them as sex objects because they are wearing something revealing is a problem with you, not a problem with them. Having them be happy with how they are regardless of anything external is uplifting. Not teaching them they have to be prudish because you are. I am certainly not saying you should go out and MAKE them wear revealing clothing, but people should let kids explore there own tastes.
What do you think about them? Are they growing up too fast for their age? I've noticed as the years are going by more and more are going out partying at 15 and younger, having babies at 13+, Being sexually active in grade 8 etc.. When I was a kid I played with My Little Ponies and barbies.. Not with my baby or with rude parts. What do you think about the society these days?
I think the point that is trying to be made is: Women regardless of age should be allowed to wear whatever they'd like and not be thought of as sex objects just because of it. It's like people who say "Oh, you deserved to be raped because you dressed like a slut." When I was 14 I was wearing a tight but not overly revealing shirt. A boy in my school grabbed my boob and when I told it to the teacher they said "Well, you shouldn't be wearing a tight shirt like that, it provokes people." :/
Quote from: xeevee on December 12, 2012, 09:49:18 AM Yes, parents should protect their children. That means physically being around them and not putting them in dangerous situations. Not stifling their sense of self. Not teaching them sex is evil. Not slut shaming themselves and others. Actually, physically protecting them.This post = flawless. +1
Yes, parents should protect their children. That means physically being around them and not putting them in dangerous situations. Not stifling their sense of self. Not teaching them sex is evil. Not slut shaming themselves and others. Actually, physically protecting them.
Whether or not it is slut shaming, you are slut shaming.
I still fail to see how small children dressing modestly and age appropriate 1) makes me view them as sex objects and 2) makes me a prude. Sex is great - but it's still not for small children. Maybe you're doing a little projecting there.