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It seems what i said created a little debate, so i'll precise what i think.I'm not saying we should give a Rapunzel to the first child that enters our room.I'm just saying that i think that if you know the child and know she is careful, completely forbid her to touch any ponies (even the ones that aren't even slightly rare) will do more bad than good.But when i let children play with my ponies i always watch them to prevent anything going wrong.
And all the while that vile man my sister shared her life with would use the Excuse "But Rose they ARE TOYS.. they ARE made to be played with".Maybe they are... but these children were violently destructive.
Children need to learn to respect the belongings and boundaries of other people. Letting children have something just because 'it's a toy and toys are made for kids' does more harm than good. They are not learning to treat the belongings of others with respect. A lot of the kids I work with will recognise that they do not have the right to take a toy belonging to another child when the other child says, "No". Why would reinforcing those same boundaries change when the other person is an adult?
Quote from: Jorgito93 on August 25, 2016, 07:40:22 PMIt seems what i said created a little debate, so i'll precise what i think.I'm not saying we should give a Rapunzel to the first child that enters our room.I'm just saying that i think that if you know the child and know she is careful, completely forbid her to touch any ponies (even the ones that aren't even slightly rare) will do more bad than good.But when i let children play with my ponies i always watch them to prevent anything going wrong.I work with kids, and I quite like them. That said, I disagree. I can't see that telling a child you know that some of your things are off limits be detrimental to them. Perhaps the key lies in the wording. Rather than saying, "You can't touch them, you might break them" saying something like "These are very special things and are just for looking at" would make the child feel less like you are judging THEM and more that those ponies are super special and need to be treated with respect. Children need to learn to respect the belongings and boundaries of other people. Letting children have something just because 'it's a toy and toys are made for kids' does more harm than good. They are not learning to treat the belongings of others with respect. A lot of the kids I work with will recognise that they do not have the right to take a toy belonging to another child when the other child says, "No". Why would reinforcing those same boundaries change when the other person is an adult?
I was highly uncomfortable and opted out of doing anything that involved an adult looming over me anxious and watching that I didn't damage something of theirs or hurt myself. (think about it- it really wouldn't be fun to "play" like that now would it?) The toybox I do have handy to occupy friend's kids- pretty much go wild within reason (like no throwing them at people, or lighting them on fire, or using the crayons to scribble on the wall or couch) but if playing involves smacking two toys together repeatedly- sure. have fun. oh the windshield got cracked on the hot wheel? ok. guess I know what I'm getting at the thrift next time some kids are gentle, some are not and not because they're "brats" some kids don't have well developed fine motor skills. And the kids who DO behave like brats shouldn't be hated. "everything is mine if I want it" kids are still innocent. They learned from the people raising them and setting the rules at home- so direct the anger at the source.
Kids needs boundaries and I am kinda shocked sometimes when parents keeps asking their mini kids like 3-5yo everything like what do you want to eat, which bathrobe you want to use, do you wanna do this or that and that. Like hey the kids is so small that he doesn't need to decide everything and I am pretty sure he is pleased if he gets just food and some bathrobe after bath etc. Later on it will be a problem if kid has always eaten pancakes but in school there is none. I also think it is easier for the child itself they know that they can't do always what they want cause in school/work etc it won't work that way.