If I had Kids they wouldn´t be able to play with my Collection.its the same way here. parents often dont care about their children and allow them to act out, causing them to grow into very vile and rude people with little to no manners. the irresponsibility in some of these people is just a shame!
It´s harder to put up rules for other peoples kids but in my home my rules. :)
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Yes youré right she needs a better role model. It´s Always so frustrating to see Children without any rules.
It seems like it´s accepted in the society that Children shall decide Everything in a family. I Think it´s so wrong and it´s not fair to the Children to get that responsibility.
I know kids that are not allowed to just be themselves. The parents are spamming them with activities all the time because they are so afraid that the Children might get bored.
But the truth is that they need to be bored to fantasize and play.
Is it the same where you live or is it just here that many Children are beeing raised like that?
eep! my main reason i dont particularly want kids is because of my fear of them damaging my ponies. im not ready to sacrifice my nice collection!!! ^^; children can be strange sometimes
thats very fair, it all depends on how theyre raised :silly: i feel im far too selfish for children, but that may change!! im still young :heart:eep! my main reason i dont particularly want kids is because of my fear of them damaging my ponies. im not ready to sacrifice my nice collection!!! ^^; children can be strange sometimes
They can learn to leave the ponies alone. :) I have ponies within reach of my children (ages 5 and 2.5), and they know not to touch any of them. The baby isn't really mobile yet, but she'll learn, too. My son has asked me if they (he and his siblings) will have ponies will have ponies when they get bigger. So children and pony collections are not entirely incompatible. :)
I'm kinda different than most of you on this point.I let any girl i really trust play with my ponies.It's mostly girls i really know and that i'm sure they won't hurt them.I didn't had any problems with any of them.Now i understand you want to protect your collections, but for me they at first they are toys, so i let children be happy with them if i'm sure i won't have any kind of problems.
But i know someone who had problems with a child like that.My childhood friend has a big Furreal pony(like almost real pony size) that she loves since she was 5.Not to long ago, a boy she knows was at her home.She told him to not touch the pony and... he didn't listened,mounted the pony and pulled him by an ear.Result? a broken ear, and i think my friend still want to kill him.And her mother didn't said anything to him about that.
I'm kinda different than most of you on this point.I let any girl i really trust play with my ponies.It's mostly girls i really know and that i'm sure they won't hurt them.I didn't had any problems with any of them.Now i understand you want to protect your collections, but for me they at first they are toys, so i let children be happy with them if i'm sure i won't have any kind of problems.
Aren't we all here because we remember the joy these things brought us as kids?
I'm kinda different than most of you on this point.I let any girl i really trust play with my ponies.It's mostly girls i really know and that i'm sure they won't hurt them.I didn't had any problems with any of them.Now i understand you want to protect your collections, but for me they at first they are toys, so i let children be happy with them if i'm sure i won't have any kind of problems.
I'm kind of on board with this. After all ponies are toys and meant to be played with! I understand some people have very nice condition ponies they don't want kids to mess up, that makes sense. And respecting boundaries is very important.
But there's something about a community of people who collect kid's toys calling kids brats and disdaining them for wanting to play with toys that rubs me the wrong way. Aren't we all here because we remember the joy these things brought us as kids? Ponies are made of vinyl and aside from ones with lovely mint hair or flutter pony wings, they are pretty durable. Ponies are clearly toys, the kid wouldn't understand that after years the Dream Castle might be fragile. She just sees a pink castle and plastic unicorns.
Granted I wasn't there, but the kid in this story is only five and has lots of room to grow and learn. I'm sorry you felt like your friend wasn't respecting your collection by not telling the kid to do so. It would have been a good time for her to point out that you have to respect other people's boundaries.
I'm kinda different than most of you on this point.I let any girl i really trust play with my ponies.It's mostly girls i really know and that i'm sure they won't hurt them.I didn't had any problems with any of them.Now i understand you want to protect your collections, but for me they at first they are toys, so i let children be happy with them if i'm sure i won't have any kind of problems.
I'm kind of on board with this. After all ponies are toys and meant to be played with! I understand some people have very nice condition ponies they don't want kids to mess up, that makes sense. And respecting boundaries is very important.
But there's something about a community of people who collect kid's toys calling kids brats and disdaining them for wanting to play with toys that rubs me the wrong way. Aren't we all here because we remember the joy these things brought us as kids? Ponies are made of vinyl and aside from ones with lovely mint hair or flutter pony wings, they are pretty durable. Ponies are clearly toys, the kid wouldn't understand that after years the Dream Castle might be fragile. She just sees a pink castle and plastic unicorns.
Granted I wasn't there, but the kid in this story is only five and has lots of room to grow and learn. I'm sorry you felt like your friend wasn't respecting your collection by not telling the kid to do so. It would have been a good time for her to point out that you have to respect other people's boundaries.
It seems what i said created a little debate, so i'll precise what i think.I'm not saying we should give a Rapunzel to the first child that enters our room.I'm just saying that i think that if you know the child and know she is careful, completely forbid her to touch any ponies (even the ones that aren't even slightly rare) will do more bad than good.But when i let children play with my ponies i always watch them to prevent anything going wrong.
It's deemed "acceptable" because children are still learning. They do not have experience nor a fully developed brain. Of course responsible parents teach their kids to respect boundaries, but the above still applies. Do I think kids should get a free pass for behaving badly? Well, no, but when they do I still place the responsibility on the adults they are with. Kids need guidance to understand that they should know better..
To people who say they hate kids, all kids? Don't you remember how it felt to be a kid when people said this? There are badly behaved kids and wonderful kids. A whole group never deserves to be written off.
It's deemed "acceptable" because children are still learning. They do not have experience nor a fully developed brain. Of course responsible parents teach their kids to respect boundaries, but the above still applies. Do I think kids should get a free pass for behaving badly? Well, no, but when they do I still place the responsibility on the adults they are with. Kids need guidance to understand that they should know better.
To people who say they hate kids, all kids? Don't you remember how it felt to be a kid when people said this? There are badly behaved kids and wonderful kids. A whole group never deserves to be written off.
In the end we are collecting toys made for children. Not even high end art toys, but actual toys made for kids. I've had actual kids play with my childhood ponies and they came back fine.
I am not saying it's not ok to say kids can't play with your ponies. Your stuff, your rules. Heck, I have a Cutesaurus and probably wouldn't just hand it to a five year old. It's really just the writing off of children in this thread that bugs me.
When my niece was younger and wanted to see my ponies, we came up with a very easy to remember rhyme so she could tell what was and was not to be played with:
Pony on the shelf, hands to yourself. Pony on the ground, party on down!
I made sure to keep a few doubles and baits on the floor for her so she'd always have a "pony on the ground" to play with.
When my niece was younger and wanted to see my ponies, we came up with a very easy to remember rhyme so she could tell what was and was not to be played with:
Pony on the shelf, hands to yourself. Pony on the ground, party on down!
I made sure to keep a few doubles and baits on the floor for her so she'd always have a "pony on the ground" to play with.
That's great! :lol:
When my niece was younger and wanted to see my ponies, we came up with a very easy to remember rhyme so she could tell what was and was not to be played with:
Pony on the shelf, hands to yourself. Pony on the ground, party on down!
I made sure to keep a few doubles and baits on the floor for her so she'd always have a "pony on the ground" to play with.
That's great! :lol:
:D She would come into the room and look at the shelves and inform me, and anyone else in the room, that the shelves were off-limits.
Niece: ::points to sea ponies:: Do not touch.
::points to birthflowers: No play.
::points to So softs:: No-no.
::indicates wall of shelving:: Not for touch.
::dives into pile of ponies on the floor:: My friends!!!!! :D
If I had Kids they wouldn´t be able to play with my Collection.
It´s harder to put up rules for other peoples kids but in my home my rules. :)
How terrible. Kids need boundaries and "do not touch" means do not touch" not "go ahead and play with it." It seems like a lot of parents don't teach their kids to respect other people's belongings or things.
This story reminds me of when I was growing up we had some people over and I was trying to play with the older girl and the younger girl at the same time. The younger one broke the leg off of one of my Ariel dolls (I only had two Ariels) because she pulled her leg out of the socket. I told my parents and her mom about the younger girl breaking my doll (I was usually very careful with my toys so it was big deal to me that my doll was broken.) Her mom said she was sorry but didn't even offer to replace my Ariel or at least pay for me to get another doll. My dad tried to fix her but my doll couldn't sit down anymore. I was young but I think it was at the age where you should/would know not to take other people's stuff.
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It seems what i said created a little debate, so i'll precise what i think.I'm not saying we should give a Rapunzel to the first child that enters our room.I'm just saying that i think that if you know the child and know she is careful, completely forbid her to touch any ponies (even the ones that aren't even slightly rare) will do more bad than good.But when i let children play with my ponies i always watch them to prevent anything going wrong.
And all the while that vile man my sister shared her life with would use the Excuse "But Rose they ARE TOYS.. they ARE made to be played with".
Maybe they are... but these children were violently destructive.
Children need to learn to respect the belongings and boundaries of other people. Letting children have something just because 'it's a toy and toys are made for kids' does more harm than good. They are not learning to treat the belongings of others with respect. A lot of the kids I work with will recognise that they do not have the right to take a toy belonging to another child when the other child says, "No". Why would reinforcing those same boundaries change when the other person is an adult?
It seems what i said created a little debate, so i'll precise what i think.I'm not saying we should give a Rapunzel to the first child that enters our room.I'm just saying that i think that if you know the child and know she is careful, completely forbid her to touch any ponies (even the ones that aren't even slightly rare) will do more bad than good.But when i let children play with my ponies i always watch them to prevent anything going wrong.
I work with kids, and I quite like them. That said, I disagree. I can't see that telling a child you know that some of your things are off limits be detrimental to them. Perhaps the key lies in the wording. Rather than saying, "You can't touch them, you might break them" saying something like "These are very special things and are just for looking at" would make the child feel less like you are judging THEM and more that those ponies are super special and need to be treated with respect.
Children need to learn to respect the belongings and boundaries of other people. Letting children have something just because 'it's a toy and toys are made for kids' does more harm than good. They are not learning to treat the belongings of others with respect. A lot of the kids I work with will recognise that they do not have the right to take a toy belonging to another child when the other child says, "No". Why would reinforcing those same boundaries change when the other person is an adult?
I was highly uncomfortable and opted out of doing anything that involved an adult looming over me anxious and watching that I didn't damage something of theirs or hurt myself. (think about it- it really wouldn't be fun to "play" like that now would it?) The toybox I do have handy to occupy friend's kids- pretty much go wild within reason (like no throwing them at people, or lighting them on fire, or using the crayons to scribble on the wall or couch) but if playing involves smacking two toys together repeatedly- sure. have fun. oh the windshield got cracked on the hot wheel? ok. guess I know what I'm getting at the thrift next time some kids are gentle, some are not and not because they're "brats" some kids don't have well developed fine motor skills. And the kids who DO behave like brats shouldn't be hated. "everything is mine if I want it" kids are still innocent. They learned from the people raising them and setting the rules at home- so direct the anger at the source.
Kids needs boundaries and I am kinda shocked sometimes when parents keeps asking their mini kids like 3-5yo everything like what do you want to eat, which bathrobe you want to use, do you wanna do this or that and that. Like hey the kids is so small that he doesn't need to decide everything and I am pretty sure he is pleased if he gets just food and some bathrobe after bath etc. Later on it will be a problem if kid has always eaten pancakes but in school there is none. I also think it is easier for the child itself they know that they can't do always what they want cause in school/work etc it won't work that way.