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Off Topic / Re: Which side of the bed do you sleep on?
« on: July 14, 2014, 02:42:41 AM »
I sleep on the right side, always have since we started our relationship 10 years ago. But in our current apartment, that's the side closest to the window and hubby often complains about feeling warm at night so in reality, we should switch sides but I think force of habit prevents us from doing so :P Also the right side has a bit more floor space and I will often wake up early in the morning because I need to use the bathroom, crappy bladder :(

I don't have much leg room though as our cat Chani often sleeps on the foot end of the bed on my side :P

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Off Topic / Re: Weird things your pets do...
« on: July 08, 2014, 09:10:55 AM »
My cat Chani is a bit of a scaredy cat. Her funniest fear is: Flip Flop sandals :P Every time she sees them, she'll very slowly approach it as if it's going to attack her any minute. Then she paws at it with her claws out and when it moves, freaks out a bit. Then she repeats the process. Very funny to watch. It's mostly Flip Flops but I've seen her do this with some of my ballerina style shoes as well. The only downside is some of my more inexpensive flip flops have claw marks in the front :huh:

She also has this thing when hubby and I give her any of our food (big no-no but she's so cute and hard to resist), she has to have the scrap either thrown on the floor or placed at the edge of the table (our table is pretty low to the ground). Then she'll act like it's prey and pop up and gradually push it onto the floor or catch it in her claws and then eats it :)

Then she also prefers to drink water that's on the floor after we shower and barely touches her bowl of water despite the fact I change it out 1-2 a day :huh:

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Off Topic / Re: What's the most you've ever spent on a handbag
« on: July 07, 2014, 12:28:46 AM »
I haven't bought many handbags myself but the ones I did, the most expensive are around $55.

The most expensive one I own is my Burberry tote which I think is around $600 according to the internet (don't know how much hubby actually paid as it was a gift and he of course didn't say :)).

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Off Topic / Fashion advice- my white skirt is see-through
« on: June 06, 2014, 02:38:10 AM »
So I bought a fairly cheap jersey skirt in white, it goes down to my ankles and is fitted over my thighs (sits fairly tight over them) but not over my calves. It's unfortunately pretty see-through (didn't know this when I bought it as it was via Ebay) even with nude colored underwear since you can clearly see I'm wearing nude colored underwear :huh: I'd rather avoid sewing since I'm poor at it and am not much for going through all that trouble when the skirt didn't cost me much >_<

I've tried nude colored leggings that stop just a few inches above my knee but then you can see the seams of the leggings >_< Any ideas of what I can do? I've tried finding nude colored leggings that stop mid-calf but can't seem to find any :huh:

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Off Topic / Re: Kids films that give you nightmares
« on: June 02, 2014, 10:25:19 AM »
I was also terrified by "Watership Down" as a kid :shocked: My parents bought it thinking it was a cute bunny movie and that I'd like it because I was (and still am) a huge animal nut >_< Yeah wasn't what they expected -_- I have since read the book numerous times and love it and have the movie on DVD and actually enjoy watching it once in a while. But yeah, scary movie for a little kid.

Otherwise not much else. I did see some of Stephen King's "It" when I was a kid and was totally freaked out by that movie :yikes:

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Off Topic / Re: Anyone here breed and exhibit fancy mice? PIC HEAVY
« on: June 02, 2014, 10:15:23 AM »
Don't breed or exhibit, don't even have any mice even though I wanted some as a kid :P Just wanted to say: wow your mice are very cute, especially these ones:


JAS Atomic Cocktail - argente self standard

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MSR Dancing Phalanges - bone fox standard

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A litter of agouti based c-dilutes :lovey:

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Off Topic / Re: Being a full time parent?
« on: June 02, 2014, 04:22:32 AM »
I don't have children yet but am currently trying to conceive :) When I was younger, I'd always wanted to either be a stay at home mom or maybe have a part-time job if I did decide on having children (I was very back and forth on if I wanted children or not and certain years it was even a definite no :P) so I could spent lots of time with my child. I was just a bit iffy on having a full-time job and then quitting to take care of my child which is why I was mostly after part-time work if possible if I decided on having children.

I've taken 2 educations but the job market here is awful for newly educated people without connections so it looks like life has chosen for me :P I've been considering taking a volunteer job at a shelter or something at one point since I love animals but that'll probably be when our child is starting to go to school or if it's 2-3 times a week, maybe have our child (when he/she is old enough) at a daycare center for those hours :huh: But yeah, won't be applying for anymore jobs unless we really need the money at one point, then I'll be trying for part-time work.

Anyway my biggest fear at the moment though is the same as you: how other mothers (and even other people) will perceive me when I do have a child and tell them I am a homemaker :huh: So I understand this concern. I think in Denmark though it's much less well-regarded to be a full time parent then it is in eg. the USA or other countries. I'm already being hounded by strangers for being unemployed (although now it's a choice), despite the fact that I'm not "costing" them anything since my husband provides for me. They can't say I'm sponging off of society, sponging off hard-working people while I am being lazy/picky about any jobs I did apply to (which is sooo not the case) :shocked: So they see me as a sponge not contributing to society like every respectable person should and sponging off hubby instead :( I doubt many people here will accept the fact that I will be a stay at home mother :huh: My own mother is Danish and she was a stay at home mom as well (albeit a very poor one). One of her friends from Denmark came to visit and basically told her how could she respect herself for sponging off my father and not being respectable and getting a job and earning her own money :shocked: Needless to say they never spoke again. But yeah, this is probably the reaction I'll be getting at one point :(

I would think that other countries are a bit more open to stay at home parents and more accepting of it. It's nice to read other's experiences here though and nice to see that some won't see me as lesser of a person :)

So yeah I guess what I'm saying is I understand your concerns and am in the same boat at the moment :huh:

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Off Topic / Re: How did you get your pets/and name them
« on: May 29, 2014, 04:31:53 AM »
Our previous cat, Sierra, came with her name and we just kept it since she was already 10-11 years old when we got her. The previous owner, a friend of my husband's, couldn't keep her since she had to move to Germany because of her job. She came back 1 year later and tried to take Sierra back but gave up when Sierra didn't give her any warm greetings seeing her again :P Sierra was a Somali:

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She was, by the way, almost completely blind but was very good at finding her way around and got eyedrops every day. She died in October 2012 at the age of 16, euthanised due to a failing liver :cry:

We got our current cat, Chani from a nearbye shelter about 3 months later and she originally came with the name Momo :P We didn't think it suited her very well so we started coming up with names. I had come up with Saphira and Callie while hubby came up with Chani because she's so small. He'd recently started reading the "Dune" books and this is one of the female characters. We couldn't decide which of these names was best so a friend of our had us write the names down on a piece of paper. She then took the paper and numbered them in no particular order and we had to pick a number. We ended up with Chani as the winning name :) So it took maybe 2 weeks from we got her til we named her. In the meantime I called her Kit Kat which is still used as an endearment :P

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I forgot to mention her other nickname is Moosh. Don't ask me where it came from, I just started calling her that and it stuck :P

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Off Topic / Re: What does your wedding band look like?
« on: May 25, 2014, 11:17:37 AM »
Here's what my wedding ring looks like. It has 6 very small diamonds around it. The ring with the bigger diamond is my engagement ring that I'm wearing (as per tradition) in front of my wedding band:

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Hubby's wedding band is the same as mine, just without the tiny diamonds :P

All 3 rings are made of white gold :) My engagement ring was bought in Singapore since we got engaged over there (hubby had to work in Singapore as a part of his job training). The worst part is I had been teasing him for a long while about when we'd get engaged and he'd been going around with the ring for about 1 month waiting to pop the question :P Hubby liked the prices of the store's rings so we bought our wedding bands from the same shop.

Oh yes I forgot to mention our wedding bands have each other's names engraved inside/under the ring along with our wedding date and year :) So mine has hubby's name and his has mine and both include the wedding date. So hubby has no excuse to forget the date :lol:

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Arts & Crafts Corral / Re: Gift for Ponybabe!
« on: May 23, 2014, 08:08:46 AM »
Wow thank you very much RP, this is very cute :lovey:

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Off Topic / Re: Whacky Stuff Your Significant Other Has Done
« on: May 22, 2014, 04:38:02 AM »
My hubby can be pretty funny :) The most recent incident was we where driving to this place to pick up our new balcony furniture. The place is close to his parents' house. Suddenly instead of just driving he starts to stop the car and I ask him what is he doing, there's no traffic light there and the one further ahead is green :blink: He then starts to say that there used to be a traffic light right there at one point... maybe about 10 years ago :lookround: So I can't control myself and ask him why he tried to stop for a traffic light that isn't there anymore, is it some sort of mourning thing, like is he showing his respect for the "departed" traffic light :silly: :lmao:

I'm sure he's done other things, his distracted nature makes for lots of funny episodes, I just can't remember any more off of the top of my head right now :lol:

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Off Topic / Re: Cat saves boy video sweeping through?
« on: May 20, 2014, 07:50:59 AM »
Wow what a great cat :) It's great to finally see one of these stories on video and not just read about it. I love reading stories about cats that do extraordinary Things, nice to see one of them :)

Yeah I kinda do feel sorry for the dog, it looks like it attacked the boy with no provocation from him :( I blame the owners. I believe they say in the video it's a Lab/Chow mix and Chows aren't the best breed of dog to have unless you're going to train them:

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The Chow Chow is an imposing character thanks to his bellowing bark and scowling expression. They originated in China and were used to hunt everything from pheasant to wolves, were commissioned to guard boats and pull carts of cargo. Today the Chow still makes an excellent guard dog, and when treated with love and respect, is himself a loving and respectful companion who tends to attach deeply to one or two members of his family. Chows are an aggressive breed, fiercely protective of their people and property and should only be adopted by experienced dog owners who have the time and energy to devote to proper training and socialization.

So yeah this dog probably had his hunting instincts intact and aggressive behaviour. The owners clearly didn't realize what they had and didn't socialize or train him properly :( A pity the dog had to suffer because he lost the lottery in which owners he got :huh:

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Off Topic / Re: People In The US Having Dingos As Pets
« on: May 20, 2014, 07:29:33 AM »
Wow that's just insane :shocked: Even if they're not purebreds and maybe just ½ Dingo, I would think it dangerous to own one :huh:

I recently saw an episode of "The Dog Whisperer" (with dog trainer Cesar Millan) where some people had wolf/dog hybrids as pets (think they were ½ wolf and ½ dog) and had huge problems controlling them :huh: Cesar had a wolf expert or something like that with him and it ended up the owners were told they had to treat them as wolves because they're more wolf in personality than dog.

I personally believe that no one should be able to own a wild animal or even hybrids, it's just too dangerous both for the owners and for any people who might get hurt by one of these animals :huh: It's also a pity for the animal in my opinion if they're more wild in nature and should actually be running free somewhere or at least in a nature reserve or a humongous enclosure. At the very least, people who wish to own them should be informed of what they're getting and be forced to go through some course in how they need to interact and train the animal, get a sort of license if you will :huh:

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Off Topic / Re: Getting another cat
« on: May 12, 2014, 10:53:14 AM »
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I really hope it will work out. Btw, some people say that I should keep them seperate the first days, others tell me to just let them meet as soon as I take her home. What's the best way to do it?


I still recommend Jackson Galaxy's method as he's a professional cat behaviourist. He even has his own show on Animal Planet called "My Cat From Hell." He recommends separation at first and some site swapping. You can read more in the link I sent you :) I would think just throwing the 2 cats together is too much of a gamble and you risk ruining a possible friendship. Slow and steady is best in my opinion :)

Here's the method:

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The common wisdom in introducing a newly adopted cat to a resident one in the past was to open the carrying case and “let them work it out.” We most definitely have a new way of looking at things; from the cat’s perspective. Cats are, after all, about territory. Bring a new, utterly alien scent of the same species into the house, and more times than not, we’re asking for chaos. Of course everyone has a story about introducing two cats that went smoothly doing the old fashioned technique. The point to stress is, if it goes poorly, this one meeting is the association that these two cats will hold onto for quite a long time and make a peaceable kingdom a difficult task. It is, ultimately, better to be safe than sorry.

A slow and steady introduction starts with the establishment of a base camp for the newcomer (the article on setting up base camp). Once you’ve set up his or her space, you’re ready to start letting the cats make positive associations between one another. This is key, and will be repeated ad infinitum; all associations between the cats during this critical period have to be as pleasing as possible to reduce possible friction when they finally have free access.

Let’s start with one of the most pleasing motivators-food! Feeding time will happen at the door of base camp until introduction is complete. If the resident cat is not on a scheduled feeding diet, it might be best to put him or her on one for now. Or, if you leave dry food out and supplement with wet food, greatly decrease the amount of dry so that wet feeding time is looked forward to more. Remember that the only time either cat gets wet food is during these “meet and greets” at the base camp door, which can be divided into two daily sessions. Place food bowls on either side of the door with a couple of feet of breathing room for each cat. Ideally, there should be a family member on either side of the door to praise each cat as they eat. The idea is that they are rewarded with food for being so close to the scent of the unfamiliar cat, and also rewarded by you with praise for eating. At this initial point, the door should be closed; the cats can smell one another just fine. If they don’t devour their food at first, that’s okay. They will eventually eat. Don’t give in and move the food.

The next step is to open the door just a tiny crack, giving the cats limited visual access to each other. How soon do you move on to this step? As with all steps in introduction, pay attention to the cats; let their body language tell you when they are comfortable enough to move on. Remember that proceeding too quickly will force you to jump backwards by anywhere from a few days to a few weeks. Slow and steady definitely wins this race. We need to remain safe, so use rubber doorstops on either side of the introduction door to prevent any more than visual accessibility. If the door is too high off the ground to use stops, or if one or both cats are muscling the door open, try using a hook and eye setup. Instead of using it to lock a door shut, you would employ it backwards, to give us just a couple of inches of cracked space between the door and the jamb.

Again, the time required in moving from step to step is determined by your observation and the cats’ level of comfort. Keep cracking the door further until each cat could, if they wished, bat at one another-first up to the elbow joint then all the way to the shoulder, just making sure not to leave enough room to let a head get through. The object of “the game” is to give them enough rope to succeed. If they fail, just go back to the previous step.

Other tricks to use during the introduction period are “scent swapping” and “site swapping.” In scent swapping, we take a washcloth per cat and rub them down with it, making sure to go across their cheeks, head, sides, and around the base of the tail. Then, present the other cat with the scent of the washcloth in a conspicuous part of their territory, perhaps near a favored sleeping spot or near (but respecting the space of) their food or water. This will start getting them accustomed to the new facts of life; their space will have to be shared with one another, and better to have this fact introduced by scent than sight.

Site swapping relies on more paws–on physical exploration of one another’s space. Once a day, switch the two cats. The new cat gets to explore the house while the resident cat is base camp to freely explore the scent of new arrival without the fear of retribution. This process is best done with a human partner just to make sure the cats don’t inadvertently get in each other’s way while trading places; but if you don’t have help, try putting the resident in, say, a bedroom. When the new cat heads for the kitchen or other area out of sight, move the resident cat into base camp. Both cats should get the praise and encouragement they need/deserve in bravely going where they have not gone before!

Don’t forget, during this entire process, to play with the cats! This may seem elementary, but remember, they are just energetic balloons naturally, and even more so during these intense times of stress. Of course, you will have separate play sessions during the introduction phase. Once they’ve met and cohabitated for a bit, group playtime will be another wonderful way of diverting aggression they might have towards one another into a positive route. Refer to our article on play therapy to learn the ins and outs of keeping them both as happy as possible during the period of adjustment.

Additionally, consider flower essences to help both (or all) cats get through the initial introduction period with the least amount of stress and anxiety. Spirit Essence has many formulas to choose from, depending on the personalities involved, including “Peacemaker”.

When you think it’s time to let them be in the territory together at the same time, take precautions. If a fight breaks out, do not try to break it up with your hands! Unfortunately, this is most of the time our first instinct. You are almost sure to be clawed and bitten, and it will not be pretty. In the heat of the moment, the cats will not be able to distinguish between your arm and each other, and they will have no inhibition about attacking whatever is handy, even if it’s you. Instead, have an immediate barrier like a couple of large, thick towels or blankets at the ready. You can toss them over the cats to disorient them, and immediately relocate them by scooping them up inside the towel (to protect yourself). There is no need to follow this up with a scolding. That will not do anything except increase the cats’ agitation, which is just what you don’t need! Let the event pass with each cat in their own “time–out”, and start again fresh tomorrow–at the very beginning. Also make sure that when the two cats meet, they have escape routes from one another. Getting cornered is a sure recipe for a fight in the mind of a defense–minded animal like a cat.

Keep a close eye on all interactions for the first week or so, not letting the cats have free access to one another when nobody is home. Finally, keep the food and litter setup established in the base camp room, at least for the next while. The accepted “recipe” is three litterboxes for two cats (to be precise, 1 box per cat + 1), so bear that in mind. Also bear in mind escape routes from the boxes, as the last place we want a skirmish to erupt is while one of the cats is having a “private moment.” They should be able to see as much of the room around them as possible when in the litterbox, which is why uncovered boxes would be highly recommended.

This should pretty well cover the bases for the initial introduction between your cats. Of course there are always variables, but the broken record theme should get you going; do it slow–there’s always tomorrow to make another positive impression. They can, over time, learn that every time they view or smell the other, something good will happen. Do it too quickly and that negative first impression might very well be the one that lasts.

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Off Topic / Re: Getting another cat
« on: May 09, 2014, 05:43:57 AM »
I've only tried it once many years ago when I had my very first cat, Natasha, and my mother took in a homeless cat. We did the whole thing totally wrong in introducing them and it ended up with them fighting the first few months. In the end, they ended up tolerating each other and the fights stopped but they never were friendly :( They were 2 adult cats , both over 1 year old (mine was around 3 years old and the other cat was about 5 years old) so don't know if that made the whole thing harder :huh: But yeah, our introduction technique was pretty flawed >_<

I can recommend Jackson Galaxy and his method since I can see that this is how we should have introduced the 2 cats way back then but I was only around 13-14 years old and figured my mother knew better (she doesn't). Anyway, here's how he recommends introducing two cats: http://jacksongalaxy.com/2010/10/01/cat-to-cat-introductions/

I believe he feels that the vast majority of cats can get along but there are a few minority cases he's had where it never can work out (he mentions one in his book). But since your cat is young and you're getting a kitten, I feel that you have a very good chance of having them be friends :)

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