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Ponyfan - I totally get where you're coming from. IDK why things have to screw up when you're already worried about stuff... I get why your Mum might be annoyed with the topic and that's fair enough, I suppose, but there's better ways of saying things, you know? Like... idk what your medical procedure is but she does, and I know you always explain your feelings well (ironically idk if I worded that in a way that made sense ^^' Hopefully you get what I mean), so she must know what you're going through right now?? Gah. I ramble too much about stuff sometimes but it's just to clear my head out, I think it's better than letting your brain get all clogged up with worries and such.
I can relate both to the need to express things to get it all clear from the brain, and the annoyance of parents who don't always get that (although mine are actually better these days). I learned that my mother doesn't actually have a very long attention span for discussions (At least, it's probably a normalish attention span, but on the short side of normal). She's also the kind who when something is upsetting, she wants to step back and take a break from it - whereas I need to have it resolved somehow so that I can draw a line under it and that makes us clash.I mention this, Ponyfan, in case it's like that with you and your mother. Your way of processing stuff that's stressful sounds a bit more like mine - in the sense that it's all crowded in your head and you need to get some of it out before it explodes or you overload. But if your mother is struggling to see you upset, she might actually be putting up a barrier without realising it to protect herself, or feel that you are hurting yourself more by continuing to worry about it, because if it were her in your place, she would find that upsetting.I don't know if that made sense, but it's how it sounds to me. 40ish years of being at sometimes crossed purposes with my mother over some stuff has made both of us recognise more those clear differences in our way of handling stressful and upsetting stuff.
That's what frustrates me, that she won't listen to your side of things. I can see it from her side of things too, but I can't understand why she won't try to at least come to some sort of compromise with you, see things from YOUR point of view. Gah. I hope things work out soon <3
I NEED to pack today, but it's soooo hot. x___o; edit: YEOOWWW... I just reached into the basket to give my sleeping kitty Miney some scritches/pets and she FLIPPED OUT and scratched up my hand. Must've been in a deeeeep sleep and woken up with a jolt. I'm not annoyed at her cause she didn't mean it, but ouch x__x *rubs wrist* Never seen that happen before.