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Wow this sounds sort of exactly like my "friend' I'm so sorry that happened to you... I can totally imagine your shock.. : ( This is classic behavior that I've been reading about online... It is really scary how there are so many people out there who follow these patterns and leave so many of us feeling confused & betrayed....I met this friend online too. We met pretty quickly in person but she lived in a different city so we didn't see each other a ton in person, but anytime I was in her city or she was close by to me, I would try to make an effort to go see her. It isn't weird to me anymore to have internet friends cause...the internet is how we all live now... haha. But yeah, this person has always had a whole thing going on about how EVERYONE was horrible to her, had mistreated her, had been mean in some sense... and I really should have caught on sooner. It all came to a head because she was trying to move in w/me and my husband for a few months. Then all of a sudden it was going to be her and her boyfriend ! (Neither has jobs, and I am currently looking for a job). She didn't even ask permission. I had to put my foot down. My husband really needs his space and he wasn't super comfortable with it but he would have done it if I had asked. Also we just got married in May. I figured she would understand because we're newly married but... no. Thanks for responding. Right now an issue is we have so many mutual friends and I pretty much use my social media only for work. I don't know what she's said or hasn't said and i can't say anything online or even post anything indicating I'm in a weird mood!! Thank you for listening <3
That sounds like a really awful situation; I'm so sorry that happened to you. I've had similar situations with online friends; I have a great group of friends who all met through Geek & Sundry, and there was a very sweet girl in the group who turned out to basically be someone catfishing all of us. It was really crazy.Another person in that group lives local to me, so we met up in person and started hanging out some, but he turned out not to be the nicest person; I eventually had to cut ties with him, but he didn't take it well and reacted very immaturely. He was still friends with the rest of this group, but alienated himself from most of them over time as well, unfortunately. He's obviously troubled, so everyone tried to roll with it as much as we could, but in the end he was just too toxic. I only found out within the past year that he'd been telling lies to our mutual friends about why he and I had stopped talking. It was really embarrassing and made me pretty angry, but there's another person in that group I'd hung out with in person before and have become really close with, and he stood up for me when he heard it, and finding out it was all lies wasn't much of a surprise to anyone else.The internet is an amazing and wonderful tool and resource, and can foster really great communities of friends, but there are definitely those people out there who are manipulative and will really take advantage!
Quote from: PetSounds on October 17, 2016, 11:55:09 PMWow this sounds sort of exactly like my "friend' I'm so sorry that happened to you... I can totally imagine your shock.. : ( This is classic behavior that I've been reading about online... It is really scary how there are so many people out there who follow these patterns and leave so many of us feeling confused & betrayed....I met this friend online too. We met pretty quickly in person but she lived in a different city so we didn't see each other a ton in person, but anytime I was in her city or she was close by to me, I would try to make an effort to go see her. It isn't weird to me anymore to have internet friends cause...the internet is how we all live now... haha. But yeah, this person has always had a whole thing going on about how EVERYONE was horrible to her, had mistreated her, had been mean in some sense... and I really should have caught on sooner. It all came to a head because she was trying to move in w/me and my husband for a few months. Then all of a sudden it was going to be her and her boyfriend ! (Neither has jobs, and I am currently looking for a job). She didn't even ask permission. I had to put my foot down. My husband really needs his space and he wasn't super comfortable with it but he would have done it if I had asked. Also we just got married in May. I figured she would understand because we're newly married but... no. Thanks for responding. Right now an issue is we have so many mutual friends and I pretty much use my social media only for work. I don't know what she's said or hasn't said and i can't say anything online or even post anything indicating I'm in a weird mood!! Thank you for listening <3 Wow, yeah, they really do sound the same!My ex-friend was always going on about how her boyfriend abused her but would cut off anyone who dared bring it up/say a single bad word about him/etc. It was like walking on eggshells constantly. I had an abusive mother and my father is still stuck in that abusive relationship so I take these things very seriously. I was so worried about her but had to be EXTREMELY careful or she'd cut me off without a word. (After we stopped speaking I saw her crying about how no one ever told her how evil and mean and abusive her boyfriend was, and therefore none of her friends ever cared about her.)She was always, always, always the victim. Her mom was abusive (no she wasn't), her friends were mean (no they weren't), people made fun of her (probably, cause humans, but not for any reason she complained about), everyone was out to get her (no one cared), her brother was evil (he was just a regular annoying brother), her college roomate was so inconsiderate and horrible (maybe to some degree but no worse than my friend was to her), and just on and on and on like that. She always had to be treated with such delicate gloves and was always making up new rules to be allowed to talk to her. And she was always forcing me to give her things and do things I wasn't totally comfortable with because she wanted it, even if she didn't actually truly want it (if that makes sense). It was absolutely exhausting. Honestly, after trying so hard not to step on her toes when she visited I was kind of totally worn out...In a way it was a relief when she apparently lost her mind (everything she claimed was more lies, I'm totally sure of it). She claimed she spent an entire day or two cowering in fear in her dorm room because... we had a slight disagreement and I told her to stop letting people walk all over her and steal her money?? Which she CONSTANTLY complained about. She had like, hundreds of dollars allegedly stolen from her because she supposedly downright refused to file Paypal claims/open cases/etc. So she claimed she thought my boyfriend would go to her school like 12 hours away (when we had NO money for anything, much less hundreds for gas) and attack her or something? Because of that? He would never ever do something like that. She spent days with him! They spoke from time to time, like acquaintances! It was just insane.Afterwards she tried to use some of the hardest things I've gone through against me. Thankfully I'm not psycho so it didn't actually bother me, but I did see right through her plan and what she was trying to do. It was ridiculous and just... so downright nasty (if I had done similar I'm 100% sure it would have supposedly caused her to have a complete breakdown).But anyways yeah, abusive friends are just terrible ): Its even harder to go through because so many people consider online friendships to be "fake" anyways (when it happens online) or just think it doesn't matter because you can just make new friends. Its tough though. It hurts.