I get the exact same thing. Sometimes I wonder if my PMs are going through because I will respond and get absolutely nothing in return and it's annoying. I can understand if someone can't respond immediately, but to ignore a PM completely is just rude.
Maybe put in your listings about holding an item for 24 hours only.
I've had people do this many times, but like Sarahlacewing, i don't bother if they don't answer after inquiring about an item because I don't automatically put it on hold for them or anything like that.
I think the new PM script makes it really easy to not respond to people while passively surfing, and that comes across as very rude. :( If it marks them all as read, then you might only reply to the newest
I think the new PM script makes it really easy to not respond to people while passively surfing, and that comes across as very rude. :( If it marks them all as read, then you might only reply to the newest - or you might just click to another screen. I know I'm guilty of this, but I usually feel guilty enough that I go back and answer that same night.
Call me old fashioned, but I think a little manners goes a long way, and people all too often forget about them nowadays.
the other who appeared quite interested came back and forth (over about a week and a half if I recall) asking about various shipping costs to the point where I eventually went down to the post office and got an accurate quote for them. I never heard back from them. And they never responded to my follow up pm either. Totally poor trading etiquette in my opinion.
I've also had a member twice now approach me about an art trade and never follow through with their communications. Geez.... if you don't want to go ahead, that's fine, but at least have the courtesy to say so! Not that bloody hard :nope:
In both the above cases I was never angry about things not going ahead (rather relieved, actually - if things start out badly how will they end up?), but I was disappointed in their communications. Again, it's just manners! (but needless to say, I won't be keen on wasting anymore of my time with either of the members concerned if they approach me again in the future :P)
Before you get upset/angry at people, try PMing them multiple times. The Arena's PM system makes it much too easy to lose PMs.
Can I also point out that as a buyer, many times I've had questions about condition/shipping/etc gone unanswered by sellers. I try to give those sellers the benefit of the doubt for the reason I've just stated, but it's defenitely not a case of just potential buyers lacking in ettiquette.
I think the new PM script makes it really easy to not respond to people while passively surfing, and that comes across as very rude. :( If it marks them all as read, then you might only reply to the newest - or you might just click to another screen. I know I'm guilty of this, but I usually feel guilty enough that I go back and answer that same night.
I was going to say this. I've completely missed PMs that I never touched because they got marked as Read. Usually I'm able to catch missed PMs quickly, but if for some reason I'm getting a lot of PMs or something like that its alarmingly easy to completely lose a PM because of it.
Before you get upset/angry at people, try PMing them multiple times. The Arena's PM system makes it much too easy to lose PMs.
it really is easy to miss PMs when you get multiples and they are all marked as read as soon as you open your PM box :yikes: I'm sure there must be some kind of setting to stop this happening - I must to look into it.
it really is easy to miss PMs when you get multiples and they are all marked as read as soon as you open your PM box :yikes: I'm sure there must be some kind of setting to stop this happening - I must to look into it.
There's a little symbol above the PM list (right next to the Date column) to "Change View." It cycles through three settings. I have mine set to display as converstions so I can look back at everything both I my buyer/seller have discussed all at once. This also means only the most recent PM opens when you go into your messages leaving any other new ones marked unread until you actually open them.
There's a little symbol above the PM list (right next to the Date column) to "Change View." It cycles through three settings. I have mine set to display as converstions so I can look back at everything both I my buyer/seller have discussed all at once. This also means only the most recent PM opens when you go into your messages leaving any other new ones marked unread until you actually open them.
Can I also point out that as a buyer, many times I've had questions about condition/shipping/etc gone unanswered by sellers. I try to give those sellers the benefit of the doubt for the reason I've just stated, but it's defenitely not a case of just potential buyers lacking in ettiquette.
Are we getting old and crabby? Is it a specific generation collector that seems to be the culprit? I might be in a snotty mood but I haven't had this issue with g1s.
it really is easy to miss PMs when you get multiples and they are all marked as read as soon as you open your PM box :yikes: I'm sure there must be some kind of setting to stop this happening - I must to look into it.
There's a little symbol above the PM list (right next to the Date column) to "Change View." It cycles through three settings. I have mine set to display as converstions so I can look back at everything both I my buyer/seller have discussed all at once. This also means only the most recent PM opens when you go into your messages leaving any other new ones marked unread until you actually open them.
I never knew! My hero!
Are we getting old and crabby? Is it a specific generation collector that seems to be the culprit? I might be in a snotty mood but I haven't had this issue with g1s.
Sorry to say, but it has been exactly the "old" G1 collectors/sellers who have failed to respond in my case.
I have noticed this actually happening even more often than usual lately. I have had about three or four potential buyers just in the past week do this to me: Request a shipping quote, ask for my PayPal and not respond to my multiple PMs. It's irritating. All I ask is that if they decide against buying the ponies to drop me a note to say so. Is that really so difficult?
Are we getting old and crabby? Is it a specific generation collector that seems to be the culprit? I might be in a snotty mood but I haven't had this issue with g1s.
Sorry to say, but it has been exactly the "old" G1 collectors/sellers who have failed to respond in my case.
Yes I have the same thing and not only here. I think it's the new way of communication. And yes it's rude but that's how many people are these days :| Think about it, the more you go back in history the more polite the people were. But not to wandering off. For me they do not even have to give a reason why they are no longer interested, just letting me know that the sale is not gonna happen is enough.
I think the new PM script makes it really easy to not respond to people while passively surfing, and that comes across as very rude. :( If it marks them all as read, then you might only reply to the newest - or you might just click to another screen. I know I'm guilty of this, but I usually feel guilty enough that I go back and answer that same night.
I was going to say this. I've completely missed PMs that I never touched because they got marked as Read. Usually I'm able to catch missed PMs quickly, but if for some reason I'm getting a lot of PMs or something like that its alarmingly easy to completely lose a PM because of it.
Before you get upset/angry at people, try PMing them multiple times. The Arena's PM system makes it much too easy to lose PMs.
If you *have* messaged someone (either a potential buyer, or a seller) back mulitple times and they still havent responded ,then its best to move on TBH - just imagine how much more difficult things could get if the sale went through but then something went wrong ( eg - the pony never arrives) and there was still no communication. Its frustrating though - especially if its an item you really wanted or something thats HTF :( . Good communication and good manners are really important.
New issues I'm having is with people not reading the item description that is beside the item. Then I mention "you're ok with his right?" And they act like they have never seen that information before or someone that wants a shipping quote and never answers back.
New issues I'm having is with people not reading the item description that is beside the item. Then I mention "you're ok with his right?" And they act like they have never seen that information before or someone that wants a shipping quote and never answers back.
Oh gosh yes, that's even more annoying to my opinion.. I always tell people to ask questions if they have them but if I write in the discription the price for a pony then don't come to me with the question: "how much for this pony?" Come on, just read !