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Parents who conveniently 'forget' family agreed rules about things like mask wearing when contractors come around to replace taps/do other work, despite the conversation we had about masks and contractors, which made it clear that yes, masks are still required.I am so angry with them about this. I went out this morning, and the guy (who I knew was coming) was here when I came back. Neither he nor they were wearing masks.It feels like they went behind my back, although my mother is making her usual excuse of 'I thought it was fine, and we didn't know what to do'. If you don't know, mother, wear the mask. Covid is around still and YOU ARE IMMUNOCOMPROMISED...."But at least we distanced."With no open windows at all, may I add.
Thanks, guys. I love my mother, but she's the queen of convenient misremembering in situations like this. When my sister was home a couple of weeks back we had an actual family meeting specifically about masks and discussed how we were going to play it through the summer. Contractors coming over never came up in this conversation, as it was about other things. THe last time we had a contractor, though, I pointed out the mask thing. Mother made a big fuss about it, saying it was silly, I was overreacting, giving me all the grief over it. When the contractor called, Dad took the call. He just asked about the mask and the guy said he intended to wear one anyway. Literally no drama, except in Mum's head.That's why this time angered me so much. That last incident was not so very long ago, and it was so very clear that situation had not changed. When Mum is there saying, 'we talked about it but we didn't know what to do', I told her straight that she was talking nonsense. She knows full well, she just doesn't like to 'make other people feel awkward.'I hope it will be ok, but contractors go around people's houses. Dad is on a lot of meds for various things right now, and as I said, mum has blood cancer so is immunocompromised. And she is constantly on the 'we don't need to do x y z' now as if covid has gone, even though it hasn't.I get she's fed up. We're all fed up. We're all doing this to protect her, though. I wore a mask out on that same day, even though I don't really like wearing them, and feel hugely uncomfortable now being stared at by people. But she couldn't even be bothered to protect herself. I've also given up 2 years of my life, and absolutely every piece of the independence I spent 10 years building to keep her and Dad safe through the pandemic. I'm sick of having to be the reminder person, I'm sick of being whined at for having to be it, because its her safety that's really at stake at the end of the day.It's not my fault covid happened, it's not my fault her immune system sucks, it's not my fault that the world has changed. It's not her fault, either, but taking it out on me isn't going to change any of the existing parameters. She should be glad her daughters love her enough to make the effort, instead of trying to make out we're fussy idiots who don't understand. Just I'm the one that has to live with it. Naynie's is mostly over phone.(THis is the same woman who was told separately by a doctor and a hospital matron to listen to her daughters, after a couple of bouts of pneumonia years ago. It's also the woman who didn't go to hospital when she was bleeding internally because she thought it was making a fuss, and tried to pretend to my sister she wasn't running a 39 degree fever because it was too much trouble to bother the doctor on a sunday night.I rest my case).I'm still mad a day later. It feels like a weird reverse child parent situation where she's sticking her tongue out and saying 'you're not the boss of me', before crashing my car.