The Trivial Complaints Thread ... #3

[Ponyfan]

The zipper on my bag isn't working right.  It zips sometimes and sometimes it doesn't.  I'll have to be extra careful to make sure it doesn't look closed, but it actually open. 

My mom has been getting on my nerves today.  This morning she kept insisting she has a dentist appointment next week.  I told her the dentist appointment is later in the month.  I remembered because I had to move my shot appointment so it wouldn't conflict with her dentist appointment. She had to be shown the postcard from the dentist before she believed me. Then she said that she gets the eye dr and the dentist mixed up.  She has an appointment with the eye dr next week. 


My dad decided to plug a power strip in to another power strip.  I'm not that's a good idea.  My mom and I have been sharing an extension cord between her recliner and the couch.  She asked me this morning if I wanted it and I told her  I didn't.  Several hours later I asked if her tablet was charged, and she said that the plug wasn't in all the way and it was still charging.  When I finally said I was going to charge my phone somewhere else, she unplugged her tablet. 

Just now she forgot to put the food in the oven and left it sitting on top instead.


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[Annie]

Guh! I have a bad cold so I'll be missing out on the Christmas show and dinner me and my work colleagues was supposed to go to this evening...
I'm a bit sad about it since I was looking forwards to it.

[BlackCurtains]

My dad decided to plug a power strip in to another power strip.

That's super dangerous! You can however plug two power strips into the same outlet.

[lovesbabysquirmy]

there is a least weasel living in our garage (AGAIN)

[BlackCurtains]

What happened to my ankle? It hurts when I try to move my foot but I'm okay walking, which is weird. I woke up like this.

[Pokeyonekenobie]

My parents left Thursday morning to visit my sister., leaving me to watch their 2 dogs, my nephew (21), my nephew's dog and my older brother (43).  They asked my brother or my nephew to bring up the garbage can and put the trash in it before they left.  I work all day.  My nephew is a student with a part time job, but his schedule is pretty open.  My brother door dashes when he feels like it.  Has no set schedule for anything.

Thursday evening: I brought up the garbage can and put the trash in it.  I had choir practice so I left and when I got home, I straightened the kitchen.  Brother went through coins to add to his collection.  Nephew came home from class, went to gym, came home, played video games.

Friday evening: I got home from work and proceeded to dust and vacuum the entire house.  There was so much dog hair in the carpet I had to empty my vacuum 3 times.  Mentioned to my brother that it would be nice if someone would steam the floor as my mom's steamer makes it really easy.  His response: "No, sounds too much like work."  By the way, the only areas that needed it were the kitchen and entryway.  I also cleaned out the dishwasher and told both males in the house that it was empty so they could put their dishes right into it.  Cleaned up the garbage my nephew's dog got into.  Nephew came home from the gym and played video games.  Brother went through coins to add to his collection.

Saturday: My only day off during the week.  I did my laundry and changed the sheets on my bed.  Let the dogs in and out every 5 minutes.  Went shopping, bought food for dinner, (took forever because the nearest Walmart is half an hour away and there are tons of people in it because Christmas shopping).  Got home, put away groceries, cooked dinner.  Cleaned up dinner.  Left full sink of my brother's and nephew's dishes because I'm tired of being treated like the maid and they both acknowledged that the dishwasher was empty.  Put my dishes in the dishwasher.  Brother went door dashing.  Nephew played video games.

Sunday:  My parents came home as I was getting ready for a meeting.  My mom had a fit at "how messy the house" was, claimed I did nothing all weekend and as all of us are adults, there's no excuse for it.  Tried to defend myself, was told that I knew what she expected and that she wasn't going to tolerate everyone treating her like the maid anymore.  She was also mad because HER dog had apparently peed on the floor at some point when I was at work and nobody cleaned it up.  He peed in an area I don't usually go in and both my nephew and brother would have seen.

Her excuse for being angry was that they didn't sleep well at my sister's (something they know very well won't happen) and I'm betting she spent the weekend cleaning my sister's house because she doesn't keep up on it like she should.  I know if my mom is coming she will avoid doing tasks she doesn't like because she knows my mother will do it for her.

I'm sorry that I bothered to do anything.  Apparently not filming everything I do means that I sat around and watched TV all weekend.  So now I get to go to my meeting and try not to let people know I've been crying. 

I'm so tired of being treated like the live in maid and nanny.  If I could afford to move out I'd be gone today but the housing market is so bad the cheapest thing around here is $1000/mo for a private bedroom with six other people and the rooms are smaller than the one I have now. 

[Beth3346]

ugh @Pokeyonekenobie i would refuse to do any cleaning outside of my own spaces until those grown men get off their butts and clean! i'm sorry your mom blamed all of you for their laziness. it sounds like she should know that you take care of the house and they don't

[Ponybookworm]

I'm with Beth on this!!! The men should contribute to the cleaning. Of course it "sounds like work": it IS work!!! Work essential to keeping the home clean & tidy!!!

[Beldarna]

Oh, Pokeyonekenobie I'm so sorry! Seriously, I would have done nothing for the men and made dinner for myself and let them do their own. They are both functioning adults from what I can read. Also, I would suggest to write a long text to mom either as a message or email or letter of everything you did and that you don't appreciate how she treated you and that you asked your brother and nephew for help and they did nothing all weekend. That way you get to say what need to be said without her interupthing you.

Next time they're away, do nothing. And when mom complain just tell her you did nothing this time so she could see what that really looked like.

Seriously, I had a lousy upbrining in some aspects, but mom was hard set on us helping out in the house from early age. Everyone pitched in from age six and up. Vaccumed, mopped the floor, cleaned the toilets, washed clothes, dishes, moved the lawn, weeding, make dinner, shovel snow, grocery shopping etc. And she kept track on who did what so praise where given where it was due and scolding to the lazy ones. She would have kicked your brother and nephew to the curb eons ago.


Today I woke up at 03:58. My shift started 03:57. Somehow I made it to work and the train left the station only ten minutes late. I don't think I've biked that fast in my life. I am so thankful for my electric bike, you have no idea. I broke every record imaginable to get there as fast as I could. Somewhere along the road my warning west that we have when we walk on the tracks dissapeared. I looked for it when my shift ended and on the way home and at home but it's just gone. So now I have to apply for a new one. And the stress and adrenaline gave me a severe headache that just wont go away and I am so tired now. I've already napped today and I feel I could sleep a lot more. This could be why I have the ache, but, oh well.. I have stuff to do.

[lovesbabysquirmy]

Pokey, I would have "lost" the games controller.  Or unplugged the internet. 

There is no excuse that the woman should be doing the household chores.  Last time I checked, the ownership of male genitalia doesn't prevent men from lifting, picking up, scrubbing, or other types of movement. 

[BlackCurtains]

I'm with all of the above. My dad was like that. There were only certain things he'd do around the house, like clean the toilets, mow the lawn, make dinner on the grill... you know, "manly" stuff.

[Pokeyonekenobie]

Thanks, everyone. 

My mom raised us doing chores on Saturdays.  My brother doesn't care how crappy his surroundings are and he's flat out told me he doesn't care how filthy everything is because he doesn't believe germs exist.  My sister just isn't good at keeping up with the mess of her kids and dog so it gets to be a lot really fast and her husband is even more useless than my brother when it comes to helping with housework, so I get that she gets overwhelmed and her kids have a poor male role model. I also have 2 younger brothers, one of whom cleans in manic spurts--he's a stay at home dad so I don't know how his wife feels about this.  The other one is a germophobe and has OCD tendencies, so he and his wife live a minimalist lifestyle and he has to go to a therapist to deal with the fact that babies and children are not clean creatures.  He's doing much better now than he did with his first kid.  Of my siblings I have the healthiest relationship with cleaning and I have found a happy balance so I'm not constantly cleaning but I don't live in filth, either.  Basically, I deep clean once a week--dusting, vacuuming, bathrooms--so I can spend the rest of the week making new messes and doing what I want to do. Tiny messes and dishes are cleaned up as I go.  It's not that hard.

My mom told me later that she was mad because my dad had "sorted" the mail by going through it and leaving it spread out on the counter (even though I had already sorted it into neat piles) and that she knew that the dishes in the sink weren't mine but her tone said she still thought I should have done them.  She was mad the pee hadn't been cleaned up because she saw it as soon as she walked into the house because of the way the light from the window was shining on the dried mark.  Of course she knew where to look for her dog's pee.  He's her dog and this isn't the first time he's done this.  (I thought we were doing good because he hadn't marked in the spot I knew he marked.)  And she explained that my nephew wasn't helping because he broke up with his girlfriend and was depressed so she was giving him some grace about that.  And she's aware that my brother is a pig (she's had to clean every apartment that he's ever been kicked out of) because he won't do anything that doesn't directly benefit him and she's just mad because she shouldn't have to come home to that, since we're all adults--even though I am treated like an errant child when I'm not the live-in nanny and maid. 

And part of the reason they were so tired was because they only got a few hours of sleep the night before because my youngest brother's wife went into labor and had her baby at 4am, so the text about it woke them up.  They got to stop on their way home from my sister's and hold the baby so I don't see any reason for them to complain about it. 

I did get to explain to her that I had cleaned the kitchen less than 10 minutes before they got home and my brother had messed it up in that ten minutes and I explained all the work that I did, including bringing up the garbage can and taking out the garbage, which they had asked the boys to do.  She did acknowledge that she knew my brother had made the mess.

The problem is, she takes out her anger on me, instead of my brothers and dad.  My brother stirred the soup for dinner last night (I'm not even sure he opened the can or added water to it) and my mom thanked him for making it.  She did not thank me for cleaning up after everyone all weekend.  But she won't realize how much I actually do around the house until I can afford to move out.  So for now I will choose what I help with and keep looking for somewhere I can afford to move to. 

[BlackCurtains]

This isn't at all trivial but I need to somehow get four thousand dollars before the end of the month or they're going to evict my mom from the nursing home.

[shockponie]

This isn't at all trivial but I need to somehow get four thousand dollars before the end of the month or they're going to evict my mom from the nursing home.

That’d be impossible for me personally. Do you know where she can go? Man. 

[Ponyfan]

Pokeyonekenobie,  when I saw your post I wanted to give you a big hug. 

I'm glad your mom told you the real reasons she was mad, but that still doesn't make it right that she blamed you for the condition of the house whe you did more than your fair share and the other people in the house did nothing.

BC, I hope you find a way for your mom to stay in the home.  I thought that places like that had to give at least a month's notice/


I think someone ate my lunch at work today instead of theirs.  I thought I had a Hot Pocket that I put in the freezer.  When I went back an hour later for lunch, my Hot Pocket was gone.   There was another Hot Pocket in the freezer that a couple of people suggested I eat since someone ate mine, but I didn't think that was the right thing to do.  I grabbed a couple of pieces of breakfast pizza that were left over from earlier and ate those.

Everyone is really nice so I don't think someone intentionally took my lunch. 

When I got home I found a Hot Pocket in the freezer, but I'm pretty sure I had one at work too.


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