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Title: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: Varkolak on January 19, 2012, 02:07:47 PM
I've messaged her at least 3 times and emailed her, and i have had no word from her yet. i paid her $10 for an applejack farm truck on december 25th. she was nice and offered me free shipping on the item, but its been so long, i gave up and went and got one from the store. i emailed her and asked for a refund but she hasn't responded to that yet either. its been quite a while, no apple truck, and no refund, and no response from her. has anyone heard from her yet? i'm worried i won't get my money back. i don't want to assume the worst, but its just been so long.

Post Merge: January 19, 2012, 04:13:39 PM

i just sent her another email, i'll give it until monday, and if i don't hear from her, i'm going to open a claim through paypal. :(
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: rayechu on January 19, 2012, 06:59:28 PM
No, and it looks like she has not sent her end of the newbie custom swap either.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Ringlets on January 19, 2012, 07:00:23 PM
Its been tough keeping in contact with everyone during the site move, but as far as I know there havent been any recent updates from her. I'm sorry to hear you havent heard from her :(   I will email her too and see if I can get any news, but if neither of us hear from her then the best thing to do would be to open a claim- hopefully that will get her attention and perhaps she will respond and update us
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 19, 2012, 10:44:22 PM
paypal won't let me open a dispute because it says i paid as "gift" instead of for a product. so my only other option would be to leave her a negative feedback here, and i really really don't want to have to do that. but she's not responding to anything. so if anyone can get a hold of her, that'd be great.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: kittybethy on January 19, 2012, 10:55:44 PM
Oh my!! Hope someone can contact her!
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: NoDivision on January 20, 2012, 08:28:23 AM
At this point, honestly, don't feel bad if you have to leave negative feedback. I know we try to be really understanding of people's real life issues around here and I know Shinykitsune has been having problems keeping up with things, but there comes a point where you can't just wait anymore and hope for the best. There have been issues with her for months and it's been a massive struggle for anyone to even get ANY contact from her. At the time you paid for your item she already had a lot of other commitments that werebeing worked on from months before - if she wasn't prepared to do business again and be responsible then she should not have entered into the agreement with you.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 20, 2012, 10:09:39 AM
i just went ahead and left a negative feedback, i hate to be a meanie, but i'm out my money.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: crimsondeity on January 21, 2012, 12:29:21 AM
i just went ahead and left a negative feedback, i hate to be a meanie, but i'm out my money.

Leaving honest feedback is never mean. it's protecting future potential buyers. So good for you! :)
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Ringlets on January 21, 2012, 06:24:49 PM
Crimsondeity is right - its not mean to leave honest feedback, its important and helpful  :hug:  If shinykitsune comes back and makes things right then you can always leave her some revised feedback later :awake:
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: lovesbabysquirmy on January 25, 2012, 08:14:41 PM
Thank you for leaving honest feedback.  Hopefully she will refund you but in the meantime it's probably for the best if she doesn't start more transactions.  :)
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 26, 2012, 12:34:37 PM
i hope she comes back sometime, i tried both emails i had found for her, and messaged her on here 3 times :(
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 26, 2012, 03:42:08 PM
OMG!!!!
I am so cross with this woman
She was supposed to send me a few items back on 5th november, but they got caught up in her whole alleged 'customs forms debacle'
stupid me for believing her - but i saw that other people were receiving their items & forgiving her any mistakes.
She had been treating me as a friend & I believed her.
She told me she had to get a loan to pay for the shipping again due to the wrong customs forms, and that she was selling her personal MIB collection to pay back the loan, so stupid me buys a fashion style fluttershy off her (dec 20th).
and guess what? she hasnt sent any of it yet.
i pm her regularly on Facebook, she ignores me......
i have started spamming her fb wall in hopes that one of her friends will see it & ask her whats up....
i have PMd friends of hers, and her boyfriend
i didnt realise she was doing this to others too, i thought it was just me this time......
i'm not sure if i sent my payments as 'gift' i think i did - stupid me again - trying to help her out
never again will i send a 'gift' payment......

Post Merge: January 26, 2012, 03:49:27 PM

UPDATE:  I have opened a Paypal dispute, so will see what happens from there..... will keep everyone updated
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Ringlets on January 26, 2012, 06:18:36 PM
:sad:  what a horrible situation. I hope that she at least responds to your Paypal dispute megt19
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 26, 2012, 06:20:46 PM
:sad:  what a horrible situation. I hope that she at least responds to your Paypal dispute megt19
Yep, she's seen it alright...... she has finally responded, shall I quote? "Dude, I JUST got home. I will be in touch tonight as soon as I get settled in."
LOL!! what? - has she been out for 3 months? what a load... anyway..... lets see if she gets in touch now...... not holding my breath!

Post Merge: January 26, 2012, 07:15:59 PM

Right - well I just had a big conversation with her...... will copy & paste below:

Not really sure what to make of it - I am inclined to believe her - I am so stupid & gulible in these situations though (obviously) so time will tell I suppose.
I haven't edited anything.... so have a read (if you can be bothered) and make of it what you will.......



    Meg
        Hi, just wondering whats happening with our newbie cardswap.... are you, as unofficial swap host, going to chase up people who haven't sent their cards? Also have you shipped my FS fluttershy & other items yet? thanks
   
    January 6
    Meg

        hey, have you shipped my items yet?
   
    January 7
    Meg

        hello, have you shipped my items yet?
   
    January 7
    SK

        hi there, didnt see your msg til just now ugh

   
    January 7
    SK

        i have not, its been a madhouse with lily during the day, i'm sorry. i have a box though, so it will be monday. as for the card swap, i dont think it'll be necessary to really hound people, it was unofficial and i was wishy washy about it to start with [:-/]

        i'll put a reminder in our fb group just in case people forgot with my disappearance

        but having not sent out cards myself, i'd feel like a royal jerk getting in anyones face about it
   
    January 7
    Meg

        I know it was unofficial, but I had assumed that people who signed up for it would be kind of committed to it, so disappointing

        I especially feel bad for one member, the card she sent me contained hours of work

        oh well

        [ :( ]
   
    January 7
    Meg

        Can you please let me know once my stuff has been shipped. I will check in with you again on Monday
   
    January 7
    SK

        yes, i will
   
    January 7
    Meg

        tahnsk

        lol

        thanks
   
    January 10
    Meg

        Hey, is it Monday there? lol, it's tuesday here, 9:20am, just checking if you posted my stuff yet.... sorry to be a pest [:/]
   
    January 10
    SK

        hello - it's monday

        i haven't been out yet, going to the dropoff when Lily goes to bed tonight [ :) ]
   
    January 10
    Meg

        we have just got a new pony shelf, so we left a space for Fluttershy! her firends can;t wait to see her LOL! now i just have to get the FS princesses...someone on the arena said their brother saw them in a local Target, so maybe I can get them soon [B)]
   
    January 10
    SK

        [ :) ]
   
    January 11
    Meg

        Hi

        just me again

        hows things?
   
    January 11
    SK

        frustrating - on phone with babysitter
   
    January 11
    Meg

        [:/]

        did you post my stuff?
   
    January 11
    SK

        yes, one sec.

        still on phone.
   
    January 11
    Megan Tschirpig

        ok, so .... that's a 'yes' ^^? lol
       
 
   
       
    January 21
    Meg

        hey

        hows things?
   
    January 23
    Meg

        Hello

        how are you?

        all ok?

        i haven't heard from you in a while.....
   
    Tuesday
    Meg

        can you please confirm that you have sent out my items.... and what date that was ...... i am gettign really worried as you have not been in contact with me ...........
   
    Wednesday
    Meg

        hi  - please contact me asap
   
    Yesterday
    Meg

        hi, please contact me

        I'm not sure why you are ignoring me, I thought we were friends......
   
    16 minutes ago
    SK

        Hi, I'm sorry, I haven't been intentionally ignoring you. I've been drinking... a LOT lately, and I haven't been paying attention to anything needing my time. During the days I've been either at the boyfriend's house working on renovating the basement, trying to get my school stuff situated (i start college on Monday), or going through other stuff that doesn't really matter because I've been absolutely awful and freaking out over the wrong things.

        I sent your stuff out a while back, I don't know why it's not there yet. My mother threw out my envelope full of receipts thinking it was trash, so I have no way of looking up the customs number at this point. Do you just want a refund? Or do you want me to send the items again out of my personal stock?

        I'm sorry I've been off the deep end lately... I should not have started drinking again, and I'm having a baaad time with it.
   
    16 minutes ago
    SK

        None of that is a good excuse for hurting a friend, but I figure you deserve my honest answer at this point after being so awful.
   
    15 minutes ago
    Meg

        ok

        so you did send my stuff last time we talked?

        that was January 11th

        i think
   
    14 minutes ago
    SK

        yeah I did, I'm looking at my messages and my date says Jan 10th, I had sent them that day
   
    14 minutes ago
    Meg

        you said you would send it, then i contacted you to make sure that you had, then you fobbed me off saying you were on the phone & couldnt talk

        i havent heard from you since despite many attempts to pm you

        i know you were on FB because you were commenting on other peoples stuff

        so i know you were ignoring me on purpose, not that you hadnt seen my messages
   
    13 minutes ago
    SK

        Yeah, I was just either drunk or depressed at the time and made stupid choices. I've been online via ipad or cell phone mostly. This is one of the first nights Lily and I had been home
   
    12 minutes ago
    Meg

        ok, well i can only give you the benefit of the doubt i suppose & hope my stuff arrives soon

        i will leave the paypal dispute open for now though.... i'm sure you can understand that

        what about everyone else?

        there are a few on the Arena still looking for you including a newbie custom swap partner?

        do you want me to update them?

        have you sent out all their stuff?

        is this too many questions?]

        are you drunk now?
   
    11 minutes ago
    SK

        Oh crap! The swaps... I have those and I never sent them out. If you can post my email address, please do - and anyone who's still expecting something, please have them message me. No, I'm sober for the first night in like 2 months.

        I don't even know my password for the arena anymore. I changed it a while ago, and haven't logged in for a while
   
    10 minutes ago
    Meg

        yeah, its a whole new forum now, been updated while you were drunk LOL

   
    20 minutes ago
    Meg

        sorry not funny

        it was down for about a week so a few things got mixed up & i'm sure people will forgive you if you can just get your crap together
   
    20 minutes ago
    SK

        lol, its alright, it's pathetic and I have to laugh at myself too or else it gets... just sad.

        honestly i'm too humiliated to go back

        i screwed up way too much.
   
    19 minutes ago
    Meg

        some have already left you negative feedback though

        most are waiting & hoping you'll get on top of this

        so after last time with the 'customs forms debacle' did you start selling again? or is this all stuff from that same time?
   
    17 minutes ago
    SK

        No, I think they're just a couple of things that got messed up FROM that thing. I had a couple orders I left something out of, and the swaps i forgot to send

        I deserve the negative feedback, i screwed up waaay badly.
   
    16 minutes ago
    Meg

        Well at least you're ok.... are you?

        i will delete my posts off your wall

        i just didnt know what else to do to get your attention
   
    15 minutes ago
    SK

        I'm... going to be ok. I haven't been. I've been depressed and tapered off my addiction meds, and picked up drinking instead.
   
    14 minutes ago
    Meg

        hmmmm.... well i don;t know what to say..... are you getting help?
   
    13 minutes ago
    SK

        I am, and so is the boyfriend.
   
    13 minutes ago
    Meg

        oh no, has he been the one to drag you down?

        you were doing okay before him yeah?

        i PMd him btw, just asking him to tell you to contact me
   
    10 minutes ago
    SK

        not dragging me down, really... and it just happened to coincide at the same time as I tapered off my suboxone. I used to be an opioid addict, and was on a medication that helped with the cravings, but had been trying to get off of it for a while. When it stopped, my brain went back into addict mode, and alcohol was just available. He's been a drinker for a while though.

        and i know [♥] he let me know, which is one of the reasons I made sure to sit down at the computer tonight and not get sucked into my usual time wasting stuff.
   
    8 minutes ago
    Meg

        haha, what a good boy

        he didnt reply so i had no idea if he'd seen it

        okay, well I'll you go & get some work done then.
   
    7 minutes ago
    SK

        he doesn't use facebook much, but he got the email.
   
    7 minutes ago
    Meg

        I'll update the arena & tell everyone to email you?

       
    7 minutes ago
    SK

        [email protected]
        my personal email
   
    6 minutes ago
    Meg

        cool, will let everyone know that you are planning to make everything right......
   
    6 minutes ago
    SK

        and I may take a couple days to respond - have to study for placement exams, and doing reno work this weekend
   
    6 minutes ago
    Meg

        maybe if you just send a quick reply letting people know that you have received their email & you will get to it when you have time....... thats what peed me off themost, just getting no response
   
    5 minutes ago
    SK

        I can do that.
   
    5 minutes ago
    Meg

        Great - thankyou
        so i think i can leave my paypal dispute open for 20 days, i'm sure my stuff will arrive in that time & then i will close it.
   
    2 minutes ago
    SK

        Understandable, and I totally respect that.
   
    2 minutes ago
    Meg

        great - will update Arena now - thanks for chatting, i hope things start looking up for you...


Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 26, 2012, 08:54:05 PM
UGH!!!! I'VE ALREADY EMAILED HER AND SHE'S NEVER EVEN MADE THE ATTEMPT TO REPLY!  HOW CAN SHE JUST DO THIS TO PEOPLE!? She has no sense of responsibility! I AM ANGRY WITH HER! I asked for a refund already and emailed BOTH of her emails. She's full of crap!

Post Merge: January 26, 2012, 09:00:29 PM

i sent her an email again demanding she give back my money. i'm so mad about this right now! she's been intentionally ignoring people! and doesn't care!!!!!!!!

Post Merge: January 26, 2012, 09:18:23 PM

i sent her a money request through paypal of $10 and put a message telling her i sent her a request for $10 for my refund of the apple truck. i'm so pissed off at her right now.


she sent this to me after i told her i would look into legal action.

Thank you for emailing me, I apologize for not getting back to you sooner. I agree, the negative feedback was deserved, and your money will be returned. I have testing for college all day tomorrow and home renovations over the weekend, but should be at a computer and able to return it early this coming week. I have not logged into my business email or the arena in some time, and have not received any notifications from there, and my personal email fills up fast. It was not an intentional slight towards you, I just didn't see any of the communication and forgot about it. It's not an excuse, it's just what happened, and I deserve the negative feedback and everything. I'm sorry.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 26, 2012, 10:18:48 PM
Yep, sounds like a standard email that everyone will receive....... I did ask her to at least acknowledge she has received the emails (as above) so at least she's doing that - but yeah i understand where you are coming from & I am pissed off too!
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: rayechu on January 26, 2012, 10:31:05 PM
I've emailed her as I know her swap pony was made, she just needs to ship it.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 26, 2012, 10:34:54 PM
I hope you receive the pony soon rayechu..... fingers crossed
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Ringlets on January 27, 2012, 03:59:21 AM
I think she is telling the truth about her RL sitation TBH, but of course that doesnt excuse her lack of communication etc . She was trying to work through this but she seems to have relapses sometimes.It can be tough to deal with online things if your real life situation is difficult.  I hope that she does now sort things out and refund people /send the items she still owes, then she needs to  take a break from selling etc until her real life situation has stabilized a bit  :awake:  dealing with any kind of addiction/ drinking can really mess things up , but at least she knows that its been an issue and I hope that she is on the road to recovery now
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 27, 2012, 04:25:13 AM
Hmmmm... well Riglets, you are a more forgiving soul than me......  i think maybe I am just too hurt & upset about the whole mess at the moment....... I feel like I have given her too many chances & been taken advantage of......
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: NoDivision on January 27, 2012, 06:57:53 AM
The issue I have is that she KNEW she was in a bad situation, and still entered into agreements with people. If you are not in a position to be able to follow through on your commitments, then don't make them.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Alrak on January 27, 2012, 08:40:26 AM
I got the things i brought from her 2 weeks ago but im not pleased... it took so much time and effort and if we didnt have this thread to push and make pressure everyone who trusted her would be empty handed... I feel really bad for the people that is still struggling with her.
Ill go and leave appropiate feedback too, to help and warn people, this just cant keep happening.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 27, 2012, 02:13:16 PM
I'm glad you received your items Alrak, maybe there is still hope for mine too..............
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: CrystalCrown on January 27, 2012, 02:39:06 PM
"yeah, its a whole new forum now, been updated while you were drunk LOL"
^this is the most awesome thing i heard all day XD ! anyway...

i really hate how shinykitsune is ignoring everyone and not sending out the packages and using her drinking as an excuse, like really? put the damn heineken down and send out the packages already, shinykitsune! some people have been waiting months for these packages!

and i feel bad for all those who have been left hanging because of shinykitsune's BS'ing and shenanigans.  :hug: to all who are still waiting for something from her, and i hope she gets her act together and you all get your packages soon!
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 27, 2012, 02:58:34 PM
haha thanks dude, my humor often rubs people up the wrong way because I am often sarcastic, so I'm glad someone gets me!
Thats why I always write 'LOL' so people know I'm joking, not because I'm actually laughing out loud...
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Violet777 on January 27, 2012, 03:26:14 PM
I was a little upset about how our card swap ended, specially since I'd often see Shinykitsune posting stuff on facebook, but I didn't mind much because she wasn't the only one not to follow through with her part, and since it was just a super unofficial swap that didn't involve ponies or anything expensive I decided to just forget about it, but I would've never imagined she was having so many problems with sales and swaps! It's very shocking  :(

I had no idea that all of this was happening, I'm so sorry to hear that, Meg! I hope you and the others waiting for stuff can get refunded.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 27, 2012, 03:52:59 PM
Yeah I was super annoyed about the card swap - if SK had have kept updating the thread then I'm sure the others wouldn't have 'forgot' about it.
I was the only one sending cards internationally so it was going to cost me 3 times as much as everyone else, but I was still happy to do it because I thought the people receiving them were going to appreciate them..... well they probably just threw them in the bin :(
Violet:  I have already told you how much I loved the card you sent me.... and it saddens me to think that the others who received similar cards from you did not appreciate them....
And yes I agree, SK was posting crap all over facebook all the time so i know she saw my messages & was intentionally ignoring them!
"oh i was drunk & made bad choices" just doesn't cut it with me - I don't count her as a friend like I used to that is for sure.......
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 27, 2012, 04:08:51 PM
and the problem now is that she knows what all the issues here are, and she's still not taking care of them. she knows she's left people hanging, and still isn't fixing it.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 27, 2012, 04:26:58 PM
I pmd her this morning, not expecting an answer, but she replied straight away...... no mention of ponies however:

Today
Meg
how are you going today?
SK
I am stressing pretty hard... I got registered for all my classes, placement tested, now trying to sort out my student loans, get my books, get my daycare vouchers and find out if its too late to register lily for the school daycare.
Meg
good luck with everything - sounds tough
i can not imagine going back to school
SK
It's... been an experience so far... and i haven't even begun classes yet. On Tuesdays I'm not even going to see Lily [:(] I have to have her at daycare by 9, and I have to have someone pick her up while i'm in my evening classes, and she'll be in bed before I even get out of class.



I have no idea how she is going to manage school if she cant even go to the post office....... i hope she can get her crap together though, for her kid's sake at least.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: silverskimmer on January 27, 2012, 04:36:08 PM
I hope all this gets worked out soon, I feel so bad for you guys who have been left hanging.
I was meant to buy something from her awhile ago, she said she'd hold it for the weekend while I asked my friend if I could use her paypal and them when I told her on the Monday that I had the money and could pay her as soon as, she'd sold the pony to someone else >.< Without telling me. Reading these threads though, I'm quite glad I didn't buy from her now
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 27, 2012, 04:41:47 PM
OMG^^^^^ yes, that was a lucky escape though

BTW: she knows I am updating you guys when I hear from her, I'm not doing it behind her back
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: EStRanger on January 27, 2012, 05:14:43 PM
I hope all this gets worked out soon, I feel so bad for you guys who have been left hanging.
I was meant to buy something from her awhile ago, she said she'd hold it for the weekend while I asked my friend if I could use her paypal and them when I told her on the Monday that I had the money and could pay her as soon as, she'd sold the pony to someone else >.< Without telling me. Reading these threads though, I'm quite glad I didn't buy from her now

She doesn't seem to realize (or maybe doesn't care) how people are going to look at her if she doesn't get her stuff together! The exact same thing that you posted happened to me with another MLP trader back in 1997. To this day, I remember their email address, their final irritation-inducing message to me ("i have all ready sold the ponys"), and would never do business with them again if they still deal in ponies, even though it's been almost fifteen years since. I know that technically, you (general "you") can do what you want with your property, even if that includes going back on a deal and selling it to someone else. But just because you *can* do something, that doesn't mean you *should*, y'know? Because this person didn't make the distinction in 1997, they're on my blacklist in 2012 unless they could prove reason to be removed.

People don't usually forget about their negative experiences with a person, and they won't hesitate to spread the word. If you make a bad move and don't get your act together, you can fully expect that no one will welcome your presence in the community in the future. I hope Shinykitsune fixes everything for anyone who has been left hanging and earns her former good reputation again!
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: CrystalCrown on January 27, 2012, 05:35:21 PM
I think shinykitsune should be on the bad traders list now, this has been going on for way too long now >:(
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: silverskimmer on January 27, 2012, 06:59:34 PM
It is a shame, but I don't think I'd ever be able to trade with her now. The trust is just gone after all this. It does stick with you when people do this kind of stuff
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Prismatic on January 27, 2012, 08:55:37 PM
I'm sorry so many people have had problems with her :(  I bought some ponies from her a few months ago and didn't have any issues with her, I guess I just got lucky.  She seemed so nice, too.  I hope that she comes around for everyone still waiting on her.  I know what it's like to be ashamed of something you did and ignore it like it's going to go away, but she needs to accept that ignoring it won't make it go away, it will just make it worse.  If she really wants to save face, she needs to do it asap, not just never come back.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: mana-maiden on January 27, 2012, 10:34:19 PM
.....she's abusing alcohol and meds while a child is in her care?

Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Princess-Sparkles on January 27, 2012, 11:05:35 PM
Wow!! This is just nothing but a mess. :/ I hope everyone gets what they paid for and yeah maybe she should be on the bad trader list. I know I'll never buy from her. Very dissapointing. :/
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Taxel on January 28, 2012, 12:02:55 AM
.....she's abusing alcohol and meds while a child is in her care?

That's my biggest concern. Her poor kid. ):
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: lovesbabysquirmy on January 28, 2012, 06:08:38 AM
I hope she straightens out her life - for her child's sake.  :(

Updated the list.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: M!ndy on January 28, 2012, 08:45:17 AM
*sigh* I'm so sad to hear that this is still going on. I received my package a few weeks ago but I really feel for you guys still waiting  :heart:

Although I completely understand the anger about her mishandling of so many transactions, it's still really sad to see so much judgement and negativity directed at one person  :( especially on a forum that is generally so kind...

I can't even express how sad I am to hear what ShineyKitsune is dealing with in RL. I also don't believe that she intentionally deceiving people because it takes a really low person to lie about addiction and depression - they're also not something that those suffering want to admit to.

Don't get me wrong - I'm not expecting you guys to forgive and forget about this! No way. The fact is, a whole thread of anger isn't going to make her want to come back and face this but a tiny bit of understanding might...

Yes, it was very wrong to get involved in so many transactions knowing that she has such serious issues to deal with in life and yes the negative feedback is warranted.

I don't know, I guess I just wanted to put some kindness out there  ^.^

Commence the throwing of fakies if you wish :P but I'm really hoping everything works out for those of you still waiting  :hug: ... even if I do cop a few fakies to the head  :lookround:
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: StoryDreamer on January 28, 2012, 08:54:48 AM
Alcohol and drugs are a serious thing, I hope she looks into getting help. There's tons of state resources she might be able to use, for her and her child's sake.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Ringlets on January 28, 2012, 06:41:57 PM
Thank you for updating the list LBS :)
I can't even express how sad I am to hear what ShineyKitsune is dealing with in RL. I also don't believe that she intentionally deceiving people because it takes a really low person to lie about addiction and depression - they're also not something that those suffering want to admit to.

Don't get me wrong - I'm not expecting you guys to forgive and forget about this! No way. The fact is, a whole thread of anger isn't going to make her want to come back and face this but a tiny bit of understanding might...

Yes, it was very wrong to get involved in so many transactions knowing that she has such serious issues to deal with in life and yes the negative feedback is warranted.

I don't know, I guess I just wanted to put some kindness out there  ^.^


I dont think you deserve any fakies for saying that M!ndy. I'm  happy that you got your package, and I agree with your sentiments . Yes she deserves the less than perfect feedback, but we have to remember to keep civil and make sure that this doesnt become an anger thread. Yes people are frustrated and upset,  and its understandable, but lets stick to talking about the issue at hand (getting parcels or a refund), and not be judgemental about Shinykitsunes personal life. If she is dealing with those awful RL problems and she messed things up here ,at least she is admitting them now and I hope that she will get some help. It also seems that she is still slowly working her way through what she owes people and sending the packages. Lets update the thread with any news either from shinykitsune herself, or about any parcels that arrive or any refunds or feedback given ;)
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 28, 2012, 06:45:18 PM
*sigh* I'm so sad to hear that this is still going on. I received my package a few weeks ago but I really feel for you guys still waiting  :heart:

Although I completely understand the anger about her mishandling of so many transactions, it's still really sad to see so much judgement and negativity directed at one person  :( especially on a forum that is generally so kind...

I can't even express how sad I am to hear what ShineyKitsune is dealing with in RL. I also don't believe that she intentionally deceiving people because it takes a really low person to lie about addiction and depression - they're also not something that those suffering want to admit to.

Don't get me wrong - I'm not expecting you guys to forgive and forget about this! No way. The fact is, a whole thread of anger isn't going to make her want to come back and face this but a tiny bit of understanding might...

Yes, it was very wrong to get involved in so many transactions knowing that she has such serious issues to deal with in life and yes the negative feedback is warranted.

I don't know, I guess I just wanted to put some kindness out there  ^.^

Commence the throwing of fakies if you wish :P but I'm really hoping everything works out for those of you still waiting  :hug: ... even if I do cop a few fakies to the head  :lookround:


Sorry, but this is not a 'whole thread of anger' and most of us have given her A LOT of chances to make things right.......
... and yes you're right: it does take a really low person to lie about addiction & depression!
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: M!ndy on January 28, 2012, 09:29:24 PM
I am one of those people who gave her many chances, so please don't imply that I'm not  ;)

Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 28, 2012, 10:14:53 PM
I did not say you hadn't given her chances too..... I don't know anything about your dealings with her, and never implied that I did......
what I meant was that where you said 'a little understanding might make her come back', well we have tried that A LOT & it hasn't worked!!
Plus, she has told me previously that she needs people on her back all the time or she just wont do anything..... i can go back and find the conversation but i really cant be bothered because i am so OVER this whole thing.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Eviecorn on January 29, 2012, 04:10:38 PM
No, and it looks like she has not sent her end of the newbie custom swap either.

Yup, I can vouch for that, apparently being her unlucky partner.  I think what bothers me more, though, is that I sent my end of the swap (she was also the recipient) and I never got any kind of notice that she got it (I shipped UPS, so delivery and receipt was confirmed with them.). So no thank you for the pony I worked very, very hard on, through my whole house and me being sick, and still shipped on time with tons of extras.  Yeah, not getting a pony sucks, but that's just insulting.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 29, 2012, 04:21:45 PM
Hi Eviecorn, SK has told me that the swap is ready to go, she just hasn't posted it yet...... I suppose it is hard to know if that is true or if it will ever get posted.... i do hope you receive your items eventually..... I understand where you are coming from as i feel the same about the card swap, some people put a lot of work into their cards & others just didn't bother at all, and didn't let anyone know when cards were received by them either, so no thank-yous or communication of any type.....

I am just about ready to write this whole thing off as a learning experience, and just forget the whole thing, I really can't be bothered hounding her anymore, it's just adding to my own stress levels, which are quite high at home atm..... I sent her $31 total, so I suppose I should just forget about it, it's not like it was a huge sum of money..... and I've got bigger problems to worry about atm.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Eviecorn on January 29, 2012, 04:30:27 PM
Thanks for the update.  Like I said, it's not really the lack of item that bothers me so badly, but it is disappointing.

I remember her posting the same claim about the swap at the old arena about a month ago, so we'll see.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Ringlets on January 29, 2012, 06:54:19 PM
:(  lets hope she does sent her swap boxes as well as the other stuff she still owes. I'm sorry you were let down too Eviecorn  :sad: :hug:
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 29, 2012, 07:58:54 PM
i'm going to attempt emailing her again tomorrow, she still hasn't sent me my money back. :( i don't think any of us are going to get anything out of her at this point.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on January 29, 2012, 09:03:09 PM
good luck with that ^^^ lol
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on January 30, 2012, 05:09:13 PM
she's not answering any of my emails now.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on February 01, 2012, 06:10:57 AM
i emailed her for the 3rd time this week, telling her if i don't get my refund by monday i will be contacting paypal and looking into what legal action can be taken on her. i told her if she can be online or post on facebook or respond to my previous emails with excuses as to why she's so busy she can't send it, then she's obviously got time to send it. i told her i'm tired of her excuses, and that if she has enough time to come up with them, then she has enough time to send me my money back. i don't care how busy she says she is, if she has enough time to write me a paragraph saying she has home renovations and college work to do, then she can get on paypal and sent me a payment.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: megt19 on February 02, 2012, 01:31:54 AM
^^ she's probably not reading your emails.....
I haven't tried to contact her this week because I haven't felt like it...... but just sent her a quick fb pm now....... no answer yet.......
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet?
Post by: Varkolak on February 02, 2012, 04:58:05 AM
i've still got no response either :(

Post Merge: February 02, 2012, 09:25:47 PM

i got my money back along with this email, payment was sent to her on december 25th, refund recieved on February 2nd.

"Your refund is on its way from my boyfriend's account as we discussed. Also, no, it isn't quite that easy to send money from someone else's account. Just because I'm online does not mean that the people I'm currently relying on for help out of this mess are also available at the same time, or that my number one priority is dealing with this mess. If it was simply a matter of time, that would be one thing, but no, there are many factors that are going into the situation that I'm currently in at the moment, so the snark is unnecessary and unjustified. I have been polite with you, and respectfully quiet, as my mistake has left you bereft of your $10 for a period of time, but the multiple hostile emails from you were unnecessary.It is on its way, so there is nothing further I have to say to you. Please let me know when you have received it."


Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: lovebeam on February 03, 2012, 03:15:34 PM
Really? While I realize that she may be having lots of RL issues, her attitude towards you and others have had coming from her are just too much. I hope she gets all this straightened out and does not return. I would also consider leaving her some appropriate feedback.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on February 03, 2012, 03:20:12 PM
The term 'Real Life Issues' is what really gets to me..... how is this situation not a 'Real Life Situation'? we paid her with 'Real Life Money' didn't we?
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: Varkolak on February 03, 2012, 04:28:18 PM
what bugs me is that i don't think i was being very hostile to her. i was upset that she took my (as well as everyone else's) money and she just pretty much dropped it. i've been asking her for a refund since january. it's only natural that i'd be a bit upset with her for letting it drag on for so long, and giving me a different excuse each time. but i don't think i was being hostile towards her. i told her that monday would be the last day i wait before looking into what action i could take to get it back, but that's not being hostile is it? she's the one that took the money. taking money and not sending the item that was paid for is stealing/scamming. so i do not feel sorry for anymore. i did at first and was letting it slide, but not anymore.

i just hope everyone gets their money or items back with a little more ease.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: Ringlets on February 04, 2012, 03:51:10 AM
I'm glad you got your refund Varkolak - thanks for the update  :hug:
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on February 08, 2012, 08:07:27 PM
Just updating - I still haven't received anything.......
.......and SK is ignoring me again........... I have sent Facebook PMs on 2nd, 4th & 7th of Feb.............
I know she has seen them because she is still updating her status & posting other random useless information on facebook.......
I still have a few days before I need to close or escalate my PayPal claim so I really hope I receive my items in the next few days........

Has anyone else received anything from her recently?
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: NoDivision on February 08, 2012, 08:56:42 PM
I understand RL issues, but I cannot believe the nerve of her trying to make YOU into the bad guy when SHE is the one who owed you money for such a long period of time! I'm glad you did eventually get your refund but anything she does to straighten things out at this point is too little too late in my opinion. She has greatly mistreated people who have been more than patient with her.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on February 14, 2012, 03:03:13 PM
I still haven't received my items, today was my last day to escalate my Paypal dispute to a 'claim' & I have done so.......
I did hear from her on FB the other day & she said she was still planning to send out her swaps but couldn't afford to at this time, I asked her if she wanted me to update the Arena with that info & she said no because she was already in contact with someone on here about it.... I don't know who, or if that is even true, so I am posting it here anyway.... so whether her swap partners choose to even believe that or not can be up to them.....
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: Ringlets on February 14, 2012, 06:26:54 PM
Thanks for the update on the situation  :hug: - you did the right thing escalating the dispute and I hope you get your refund soon
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on February 14, 2012, 06:31:01 PM
Yes, well I'm pretty sure I will get the refund for the 2nd amount I sent her, but I can't get the first amount because it was back in November.... but I will hopefully get $17 of the $31.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on February 21, 2012, 02:15:39 AM
Quick update:
It has been about a week since I escalated my PayPal claim against SK.
I have not been contacted by PayPal, and I can only assume that SK has ignored any correspondence sent to her from Paypal, as she has also ignored the correspondence i have sent her via PayPal.
I have had no contact from SK, despite my sending her a few nice PMs to see how she is....
And, surprise surprise.... I have not received my items..........
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: Ringlets on February 21, 2012, 03:31:17 AM
*sigh* :(   :sad: 
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: ponylady on February 21, 2012, 05:39:39 AM
I am sorry to hear that she is not communicating with you now :(
 
Hopefully Paypal will end the case for you soon.  And you can get it least half your money back.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: lovesbabysquirmy on February 21, 2012, 07:36:59 AM
So sorry to hear this has happened!  :( 
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on March 12, 2012, 10:12:15 PM
UPDATING....
I received $17 back from Paypal.
I can not get the other $14 back because it was in November so Paypal can't chase that up.
I have not received any items from SK.
I have not heard from SK at all.
She will not reply to any form of contact from me.....
so I have decided to delete her as a 'friend' from my facebook, we are obviously no longer friends in a real sense so i don't need to see her random useless crap all over my FB wall everyday, it just makes me angry.... I would rather just forget all about it now, and be more careful about who I trust in the future.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: bagheera86 on March 12, 2012, 10:17:53 PM
UPDATING....
I received $17 back from Paypal.
I can not get the other $14 back because it was in November so Paypal can't chase that up.
I have not received any items from SK.
I have not heard from SK at all.
She will not reply to any form of contact from me.....
so I have decided to delete her as a 'friend' from my facebook, we are obviously no longer friends in a real sense so i don't need to see her random useless crap all over my FB wall everyday, it just makes me angry.... I would rather just forget all about it now, and be more careful about who I trust in the future.
well if paypal can't get you  the rest back, your bank probably could. I think it falls under a mild kind of fraud "paid for an item, item never received and seller dissappeared."
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on March 12, 2012, 10:22:14 PM
well if paypal can't get you  the rest back, your bank probably could. I think it falls under a mild kind of fraud "paid for an item, item never received and seller dissappeared."
Really? I wasn't aware of that, do you know if it's a straight forward process? or a lot of mucking around? because at this point I am completely over it & it is only $14 after all.... Paypal only gives 45 days to lodge the claim, which I didn't do at the time because (silly me) I still believed that she would send the items....  She's not exactly 'disappeared' either, she's still very much alive & 'well' updating FB, and I do have her home address....
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: bagheera86 on March 12, 2012, 10:49:21 PM
.....she's abusing alcohol and meds while a child is in her care?

That's my biggest concern. Her poor kid. ):
and her bf seems to be abusing the booze as well...
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on March 12, 2012, 11:11:14 PM
yes, it's a worry, 'if' it true, but I don;t really believe that anything she says is true, so I don;t really believe that she's an alcoholic either,.... it's just excuses
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: bagheera86 on March 13, 2012, 12:03:08 AM
well if paypal can't get you  the rest back, your bank probably could. I think it falls under a mild kind of fraud "paid for an item, item never received and seller dissappeared."
Really? I wasn't aware of that, do you know if it's a straight forward process? or a lot of mucking around? because at this point I am completely over it & it is only $14 after all.... Paypal only gives 45 days to lodge the claim, which I didn't do at the time because (silly me) I still believed that she would send the items....  She's not exactly 'disappeared' either, she's still very much alive & 'well' updating FB, and I do have her home address....
usually i think, it is a bit of mucking around but they shouldn't charge you for it. just tell them what happened, it's like those nigerian princes saying "do this, recieve that' and they can get your money back for you from those cases. So I don't see the harm in asking.

edit: do it in person though, it's always easier to deal with a bank that way.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: lemontwist on March 13, 2012, 03:39:35 PM
It makes me so sad that she's still not fixing these issues :(


She probably hasn't even been to the post office for anything in ages. She was supposed to send me a little custom pony she made for me as a gift around Christmas, and I was making her one in return, but I stopped working on it when I realized she probably was never going to send it as it got to be so long since she'd finished hers. And I never got it. So it's not just y'all that she's had issues with, but as mine was just supposed to be a gift I don't really mind.


I would contact her about this issue (again...), but she doesn't talk to me anymore either, and last time was apparently empty promises now seeing this thread still going. All I know is that her home/personal life is hard and she recently started up some college classes or something. She just really should not have agreed to any sales after her last sales mistakes and with how hectic and difficult her personal life is. Not that I'm making excuses for her or anything, I cannot believe she still hasn't fixed this. This makes me so mad that she even made me believe she would actually truly work on getting everything straightened out last time I told her people were still looking for her for these issues, when clearly she hasn't done anything about it in a while. It looks like she is just trying to ignore her problems to make them go away instead of dealing with them properly.

(Although I think maybe talking about her personal life issues (alcohol, meds, her kid, etc) isn't a very good thing, you guys. I mean messing up sales with real money is a serious issue and all but... you know, that doesn't make it justifiable to tell everyone those things. That's just my two cents, if it's okay >.> I don't want to start any drama or make anyone feel bad or anything. I just hope discussion on those things will end.)
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: megt19 on March 13, 2012, 04:15:44 PM
Look I know exactly what you mean about sharing her personal life, but it's only stuff she is happy to broadcast all over facebook, so I don't think it's 'private' and she is happy to use it as an excuse any time, to anyone.....


BTW:  how hard is it to go to the post office?
I sell items on the Arena & eBay, and I go to the post office with 2 kids who hate lining up, carry on like pork chops sometimes , and pull things off the shelves & annoy other customers, but I just do it because people are depending on me, and have already paid me for the postage.

I'm going to end my contributions to this thread right now.... I am so over it, I never want to see or hear anything about this woman ever again... I've got my own problems, and just because I don't broadcast them over facebook doesn't mean they aren't serious.......
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: babystarz on March 13, 2012, 06:39:45 PM
Guys, please be aware that people who are in the middle of a bout with addiction often cannot see their behavior rationally. They tend see themselves as victims and anyone who tries to hold them accountable as being mean to them. I hate to see you all getting set off by her responses (or lack thereof). They are certainly inappropriate in tone, and the lapses in communication are not acceptable either, but being manipulative, lying, missing deadlines and disappearing are all par for the course with addicts. Try your best not to take her behavior personally - she isn't thinking or interpreting reality like a normal person would if she's in the throes of alcoholism. I'm not trying to excuse her behavior or absolve her of responsibility in any way, just wishing to point out that you are not dealing with someone in her right mind. Until she gets clean, she will continue to act this way. I've seen it up close and personal in family members with addiction problems. If you're waiting on her to ship something, I wouldn't count on her getting it to you. File a claim with Paypal or cut your losses, at least until she is sober.
Title: Re: anyone heard from shinykitsune yet? [i got a refund finally, see last post]
Post by: fingerpaints on March 16, 2012, 03:08:55 AM
I understand addiction problems can stem out to make other areas of your life hard, I have had friends & family with drug / alcohol problems, and it is like they are on some sort of path to self destruction. I feel for her, but, she has ripped people off, and that isn't fair.

If you are having addiction problems, you shouldn't be selling stuff you aren't willing to get to the post office to send out. It's just not on. It's then other peoples lives you are messing with.
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