The MLP Arena
Pony Talk => Off Topic => Topic started by: Pheasant on October 22, 2021, 07:01:37 PM
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Whether it be ponies, dolls, or otherwise... how does your significant other view your collection(s)?
What prompted this question was a thread on Reddit (arguably my first mistake) in which men were asked what they thought of girls who collected toys. The general consensus: creepy, unless the men were figure collectors themselves.
I've been single all my life, so SOs are out of the question... but most of my friends and extended family members found the collection odd, if not slightly endearing. Toy collecting isn't something I publicly advertise unless you walk into my room - there's a couple custom ponies on my dresser, and a plush leopard keychain clipped to my purse. I'm of the opinion that it isn't a hobby that makes you immature, but a lack of responsibility, laziness, and respect does.
What are your experience(s)?
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Fascination. She tries to explain things to me in pony terms related to her own interests.
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I don't have a SO but sometimes I worry what my mom would think if she found my six ponies.
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I do not have one, but I hope my future girlfriend will also collect toys of some sort. It would be fun to go hunting for things together, gift giving would be a bit easier (they might just have a wishlist) and we can house the collections and geek out together! What could be better?
Though my friends and family have reacted with amusement or a bit of surprise at just how much stuff is in my collections.
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I've been with my SO since 2011, we met in 2010. He's completely OK with the ponies, and other collections I have started over the years. It makes him happy that it makes me happy, and while not super interested maybe, he lets me talk his ears off about it when I'm in the mood for it.
I wouldn't be with him if he didn't respect my interests. I did that mistake in the past and it left horrible mental scars (that, and a bunch of other things, but beside the point), and I often feel ashamed of my collection, but he helps me out of those funks.
He in turn loves collecting jackets and guitars. completely fine by me! ^^
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it doesn't bother him. he's the reason i started collecting. he got tired of me complaining that my mom gave away my care bears when i was a kid. and told me to go on ebay and replace them. well that spun out of control :)
he only gets annoyed if my collection gets messy. or if i spend too much money on them at times when i shouldn't be spending money.
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my husband simply can't say anything about my collections when his collections fill the garage and we have a house full of shared collections...
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Single here, but I'm friends with a few of my exes and they all know about my collections and think it's cool. But then, they also collect stuff and are big nerds :lol:
I'm pretty open about collecting ponies and other toys and I've never run into anyone who thought it was weird or got freaked out or made fun of me or anything.
I also collect skulls and bones/organic remains. THIS collection has been side-eyed before. Some people think it's creepy or that I'm super weird (I am, but that's beside the point :P ) but my ponies? Nah. Everyone is cool with it.
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We're both collectors, so we often buy each other stuff.
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It doesn't bother my husband. :) He does listen with interest when I tell about them. He helped me assemble the closet where the ponies are.
(He is even more interested in real animal skulls and bones I have taken home from the forests, which I also collect. .So BlackCurtains, we have the same collectible! :heart: )
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My partner sent me a couple ponies exclusive to his country as a gift and I send him any duplicates I pic up that he wants :) He's not specifically a "collector" but he has a handful of ponies he particularly likes. He's a treasure :good:
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My husband is totally supportive. The first Valentine's Day after FiM started airing, he let me pick out a brushable Rarity for it, he's gotten me MLP tshirts from WeLoveFine for my birthday, and a couple years ago he let me pick out a replica Moonstone at Cracker Barrel when it was the anniversary of when we met that year. Honestly I check with him before I buy anything so the amount of ponies on my bookshelves, the MLP plushies in our bedroom, the MLP books I have and the wall decals in my art studio I think says it all about how supportive he is about my collection. Heck. He likes MLP himself.
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No SO here, but my friends find it endearing. Some of them have even expressed playful envy at my Pokemon collection :P and they support it through gifts. But I think it helps that I have the type of personality where I'm more likely to be perceived as innocently childish at worst, which is a million times better than being called a creep!
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(He is even more interested in real animal skulls and bones I have taken home from the forests, which I also collect. .So BlackCurtains, we have the same collectible! :heart: )
Awesome! We've got a lot in common :frolic:
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My partner is totally fine with my collections, both ponies (which I don't display anymore these days, but of course he knows what's inside the boxes in the corner of the spare bedroom) and my large collection of childrens' and YA books. To him, it's just "one of these things".
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My OH collects stuff to do he doesn’t mind and has been to every pony con with me , I don’t care who knows either if they think it’s stupid it’s their problem they just jealous they don’t have anything to collect
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My boyfriend is pretty supportive, listens to me when I talk about ponies and got me some ponies that I couldn't easily get myself.
He even said that it's nice that I have some passion like that but he does try and ask me to not spend too much money on them ^^;
He's also interested in starting his own collections (he wanted to casually collect cards and coins)
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My husband is pretty supportive, but not really all that interested in it. He listens to me talk about collection stuff, helps me with whatever I need, and often buys me collection pieces(often very nice and expensive items). However, he’s not exactly excited about ponies, and he’s not a fan of the space issues it causes. When we bought our house, he gave me the third bedroom for a pony room with the understanding that the ponies stay in there and out of the rest of the house. It worked well for both of us. I got my pony room to do whatever I want with, and he gets a house free of pastel plastic clutter.
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"I feel an urge to run" - An unsuspecting date who got invited to Sundaygirls apartment. It was said jokingly but he was a bit shocked facing my collection.
"If you ever find a pony you don't already have, I want you to know I'm COMPLETELY fine with you buying it". - Ex boyfriend. You mean like a couple of ponies every month, right? And do you honestly think I have almost all the ponies in the world? And by the way, who asked for your permission?
"Is that all you got?" - sundaygirls SO the first time he saw the collection. Yep, he is the one.
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Oh, my husband and I are grudgingly accepting of each other's hobbies and collections because it buys us each the right to collect without complaint on the other's part. I'm sure he thinks my stuff is stupid, and I think his is uninteresting, but there is this tacit agreement never to mention how much it annoys us because the arguement could just be thrown back in the other's face.
I collect ponies and American Girl stuff. He thinks they are a little creepy because they have faces that look at him. I don't display the dolls, but they take up a lot of space. The only time he gets irritable is when stuff starts overflowing and looking messy. Ponies took over the bathroom linen closet before I finally packed them up. The space on my side of the bed (unfortunately in front of the closet, which is 75% his) gets pretty bad. When he started to say something about it, I pointed out that not one single square inch of this house is mine and mine alone, and that I can't park in our 3-car garage because his 1950's Packard and all his tools and guns take up all the space. The answer was pretty much, 'touchè'.
Basically, we just need a house with a more efficient use of space.
He has said that he is glad I have interests, and is supportive of them in some ways. I think he's more interested in and supportive of my hobby of customizing than he is of my collecting (aka: acquiring more stuff that takes up space); he seems genuinely intrigued when I show him something I made, and once he even found a custom of a fall-colored Gusty he saw online and sent it to me. Unfortunately, after a recent surgery, customization is out of the question for me for a while, as I don't have the full use of my arm yet. So he offered to give me $200 to spend at the American Girl benefit sale, saying that it 'gives me something to do and be excited about.'
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1) My collections are no secret. If you know me, you know of at least one of them.
2) My husband started dating me after knowing about the collections and seeing them in person. He knew what he was getting in to.
3) Both of us have massive collections of various things. This does become a slight dynamic in the house/houses we have lived in over the years but just have to figure out where all the stuff goes.
Now, from a work point of view, it is not a secret that I collect things but I do tend to use the term "memorabilia" and "collection" vs "toys".
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My husband is very supportive. He collects Transformers and I was a little jealous that he always got new releases and the dolls I collected were pretty much done (Jem, except for Integrity Dolls but I'll never own any of them... way too pricey) so I started to re-collect My little ponies so I could keep up with him
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That is pretty much it haha!
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He thinks it's fine, probably because if I have my own wierd collection then he can buy shooting gear. He bought me Cha Cha Llama for Christmas last year.
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My husband does not mind my collection at all. At first he thought it was a bit weird. But now when we go to the store he asks me if I want to go and look at the ponies. I think that it's cute! :)
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My husband is very supportive. He collects Transformers and I was a little jealous that he always got new releases and the dolls I collected were pretty much done (Jem, except for Integrity Dolls but I'll never own any of them... way too pricey) so I started to re-collect My little ponies so I could keep up with him
THIS! Exactly this! There have been sooo many retro Transformers releases in the last 2 years. OMG Hasbro! The war for the office space is at full battle mode and I am loosing ground every month.
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I don't currently have a significant other and am not looking forward to this when I do get one. Unless they're already into ponies, but what are the chances of that happening? :lol:
I suppose the fact that my parents are accepting should give me the courage.
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My S/O doesn't mind my collections. They collect Lord of the Rings, Pokemon, Nintendo, and artwork. It brings us joy and life is too short to not surround yourself with the things that bring you joy.
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My special somepony is more a minimalist, except when it comes to buying video games and gaming devices, but he supports my collecting and listens to my rants about ones I want or got. He says he likes seeing me have a passion for something, and he's a My Little Pony fan himself. He never has a clue about what I have or not, though, so he doesn't buy me any in case of doubles.
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Indifferent most of the time...but my bosses 12 yr old daughter has been over a lot in the past year. She once said to me - you are old. why do you like comics, cartoons and toys? -_-
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Indifferent most of the time...but my bosses 12 yr old daughter has been over a lot in the past year. She once said to me - you are old. why do you like comics, cartoons and toys? -_-
That's when you look at her with horror in your eyes and say, "Never lose your youth." Hahaha
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My partner is very supportive of my various collections and owns a couple of ponies and dolls himself! He doesn't own as much as I do, but he's overall very supportive <3
He's extra supportive if they're seaponies or mermaids though, he loves mermaids and fish.
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I dion't have an SO, but do have a regular visitor. She's seen my collection & likes it, thinking it should be on show... Aye but not everybody likes multi-coloured animal toys...
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I don't have a SO, but I do have parents. My dad doesn't really say anything about my herd, but my stepmom likes both my ponies and my Care Bears. She gets excited whenever I receive pony mail, and she's even contributed to my CB collection. She has her own collection of Barbie dolls, so she understands it.
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I don't have a SO, but I do have parents. My dad doesn't really say anything about my herd, but my stepmom likes both my ponies and my Care Bears. She gets excited whenever I receive pony mail, and she's even contributed to my CB collection. She has her own collection of Barbie dolls, so she understands it.
That's awesome you have a good relationship with your stepmom! I'm a stepmom, and I've definitely bonded with my stepkids over collections. They love my pony collection and grew up playing with them. I started my stepdaughter's American Girl collection, and I still add to it sometimes when I see something for her doll for sale, even though she's in her 20's now. She loves it, and loves going through my AG stuff with me too.
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I had a somewhat cruel experience about 10 years ago. I was a teenager, I must have been 16, and I was dating this guy that attended the same school as me. At the time, Facebook was used a lot for chatting as well as sms texting and we often spoke there. one day on facebook I put "like" on the official page of MLP and Barbie and he saw it. I noticed the next day that he had created a post full of insults and humiliations such as: "You're a loser, a poor child, you will die with no one next to you ..." and all such things (even more offensive, but I don't think to be able to write them, I would never want to be banned from the forum). Sometimes people can be very bad. needless to say, I never wanted to deal with him and guys like him again.
Now I am single but I have friends who are aware of the fact that I am a MLP collector, they do not judge me, on the contrary they help me in the search for vintage toys.
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I've been with my SO 21 years in March. He supports me to the fullest. I suffer from PTSD & other things. He knows that they help me through tough times. I'm so glad to have him in my life.
@Ponyrama_95 I'm sorry you had to go through that. :hug: The guy sounds like a total jerk. Glad you have friends that understand, hopefully, one day you'll meet a soulmate. Don't give up, one is out there. :rainbow:
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I've been with my SO 21 years in March. He supports me to the fullest. I suffer from PTSD & other things. He knows that they help me through tough times. I'm so glad to have him in my life.
@Ponyrama_95 I'm sorry you had to go through that. :hug: The guy sounds like a total jerk. Glad you have friends that understand, hopefully, one day you'll meet a soulmate. Don't give up, one is out there. :rainbow:
Thank you for your words, Apple Spice 🙏🏼🤗
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I had a somewhat cruel experience about 10 years ago. I was a teenager, I must have been 16, and I was dating this guy that attended the same school as me. At the time, Facebook was used a lot for chatting as well as sms texting and we often spoke there. one day on facebook I put "like" on the official page of MLP and Barbie and he saw it. I noticed the next day that he had created a post full of insults and humiliations such as: "You're a loser, a poor child, you will die with no one next to you ..." and all such things (even more offensive, but I don't think to be able to write them, I would never want to be banned from the forum). Sometimes people can be very bad. needless to say, I never wanted to deal with him and guys like him again.
Now I am single but I have friends who are aware of the fact that I am a MLP collector, they do not judge me, on the contrary they help me in the search for vintage toys.
That guy sounds like he had some real problems beyond the scope of a normal human being. He did that because you 'liked' a page on social media? Lots of teenagers liked My Little Pony 10 years ago. I'd be happy to wash my hands of him if he was that psychotic. Sorry that happened to you. :hug:
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My partner has always considered the Ponies another fun interest of mine!
He is a collector himself, mostly Warhammer 40k figures. He was joking about how expensive they were and that "I don't want to know how much he's spending" I reassured him I understand completely, showing some of the rarest in my collection! :lol:
I love how we are both equally passionate about our fun little hobbies !
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In the past I have been pretty open about my collecting on non-Pony forums. I remember encountering one fellow who thought my collection was great, & he collected Transformers!!!
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He is indifferent
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Single most my life
The people I have in my life love my Pony collection. I hope when I decide to have a man in my life, that he loves the ponies too cause if he don't ill break up with him.
Things my man has to love & share with me
My Christianity
My Family
My Pony Collecting
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