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It'll take a while. But you'll meet people you enjoy being with. I'm in the same boat as far as looking for new friends and it's been difficult.
For me, the key was finding groups of people interested in the same hobbies and then attending meetups with them until some of us clicked and formed our own friend-group. It does take A LOT more work as a working adult than as a teenager or a college student.Most of my local friends group came from joining a Facebook group dedicated to Transformers that had meetups. These days I have about six or seven good friends who I met from that, but we also do non-TF things, like this weekend some of us are going to an ice cream festival and next week we're going bowling. On average we meet about 1.5 times a month.Keeping in touch and arranging to meet up: it is a challenge. A lot of working adults have complicated and ever-shifting schedules. "Oops, can't meet that weekend after all, I have a work event" (or relatives visiting or "it's my mom's birthday" or whatever.) In my experience the best way to arrange things, for a group, is either some kind of group chat (like Facebook messenger chat or Discord chat) or else email, where you CC everyone on the email. Also, Facebook events are extremely useful.Text or phone is okay if you're arranging something with just one person. A lot of people do hate using the phone, and I'm one of them, lol. I really only answer the phone if I am expecting a call, like from the vet. Talking to someone in real time with no visual cues is awful.Another good place to meet friends: Dungons & Dragons (or any pen-and-paper RPG). You might only be meeting with a D&D group once a week--or once every couple weeks in the case of my group, because we are so busy--but sessions last several hours so there's lots of bonding time. And you can almost count on something stupidly funny happening once per session, at the very least. If you've never played before, check your local game shops for Adventurer's League, which is the intro "drop in as you are" type session, no experience required. But for making friends, a "home" group is best.
I will add that you should really FORCE yourself to go to at least 3-4 "meets" before making any decisions about whether you are even enjoying it or likely to make friends. Even if YOU are completely comfortable around new people (fat chance) there is a 0% chance that everyone in that group is- and it will probably take at least that long for people to start acting more normally so you (and they) can simply get a better read and have more natural conversations. DON'T give up if after the first meetup you felt awkward or shy- you have to try again until you are not feeling awkward or shy- it is only then you have a chance of actually connecting with anyone. Unless of course both you AND the other people are all just NATURALLY comfortable around all new people - which does happen but it is pretty dang rare.