collapse

* Navigation

* User Info

 
 
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.

* Who's Online

Author Topic: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...  (Read 508 times)

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Offline Artemesia's Garden

  • Trade Count: (+24)
  • Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 3991
  • Flicker Flame... Thanks to Brightberry!
    • Things I make and Do
Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« on: August 30, 2019, 09:03:17 PM »
Hi ponies, I'm getting married soon but we don't really need any stuff. However, people have asked about gifts so I thought maybe we could set up a 'just giving type page for our honeymoon so people could choose to donate a bit of cash if they want to. What do you think? Do you know of a website we could use?
:heart: ISO G1 Daffodil, Cha Cha, Baby Lucky Leaf, Baby Candy, Red Roses...G3 Daffodil, Flower Wishes and Candy Cane, Baby Northern Lights...Tirek's pointy forky staff-thing from Canterlot Castle playset :heart: Pony Page :heart: Wish List :heart:
:green: Formerly known as 'Artemesia Floc' Thank you to Kiwi for chaging this for me!  :green:

Offline SnorkMaiden

  • Staff
  • Trade Count: (+35)
  • MIB Rapunzel Pony
  • *
  • Posts: 5621
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #1 on: August 31, 2019, 05:44:08 PM »
My mum's friend's daughter got married last weekend, and they asked for donations for their honeymoon (as an alternative to wedding gifts, not instead of them). I don't think they had a website, though - I think people just gave them cash on the day.
visitors can't see pics , please register or login


Many thanks to Moonbreeze for my signature!

Offline melodys_angel

  • Moderator
  • Trade Count: (+21)
  • Thailand Tornado Mountain Boy
  • *
  • Posts: 30913
  • Gender: Female
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #2 on: August 31, 2019, 05:52:59 PM »
I don't know if id actually list for a honeymoon, but that's me.

Maybe just say that your company is a gift and just tell a few close people that you could use the money---word should get around without it feeling...you know?
visitors can't see pics , please register or login

TY to the respective artists for my Destiny art :)  YAY MA finally managed to re-upload her stuff!

Offline Artemesia's Garden

  • Trade Count: (+24)
  • Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 3991
  • Flicker Flame... Thanks to Brightberry!
    • Things I make and Do
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #3 on: September 01, 2019, 02:24:21 PM »
I don't know if id actually list for a honeymoon, but that's me.

Maybe just say that your company is a gift and just tell a few close people that you could use the money---word should get around without it feeling...you know?

I think people want to give us something. I tried to ask people not to give me 40th birthday presents but I just got a load of plants and things I had nowhere to put them.

We kinda don't need the money, we're DIYing most of our wedding but we're just being careful and don't want to get into debt at the beginning of our lives together. We are in our late 30s so we already have plenty of spoons and stuff.

This is helpful though. Maybe a website option would seem tacky. Why wouldn't you list for a honeymoon? Does it seem a bit frivolous? Steve's never been abroad and we're so short of time together.

My mum's friend's daughter got married last weekend, and they asked for donations for their honeymoon (as an alternative to wedding gifts, not instead of them). I don't think they had a website, though - I think people just gave them cash on the day.

Cool it's good to know that other people are thinking along the same lines, but I'm just not sure about accepting cash from people. It's tricky

 :blush:
:heart: ISO G1 Daffodil, Cha Cha, Baby Lucky Leaf, Baby Candy, Red Roses...G3 Daffodil, Flower Wishes and Candy Cane, Baby Northern Lights...Tirek's pointy forky staff-thing from Canterlot Castle playset :heart: Pony Page :heart: Wish List :heart:
:green: Formerly known as 'Artemesia Floc' Thank you to Kiwi for chaging this for me!  :green:

Offline Beldarna

  • Trade Count: (+11)
  • MIB Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 6239
  • Gender: Female
    • http://www.freewebs.com/beldarna
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #4 on: September 02, 2019, 06:25:01 AM »
Asking for money towards the honeymoon happens quite often around here. Johns is a photographer so our gift is usually that he takes their weddingpictures for free, but I know of at least three couples who asked for honeymoon cash :).

Offline Taxel

  • Cutie Pops Crusader
  • Trade Count: (+44)
  • Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 4177
  • Gender: Female
  • Sundance <3
    • Collections
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #5 on: September 02, 2019, 09:06:22 AM »
Its getting more and more common to have a honeymoon fund instead of a registry, but I've seen a lot of people say that some of their guests ignored or were uncomfortable with the fund. They either asked what the couple needed/wanted or bought entirely random things the couple had no use/space for. I'd suggest having a small registry, even if its not the typical wedding registry stuff, in case you have any guests like that.


As a sidenote the Wedding Planning sub on Reddit was a HUGE help when I was planning a wedding and I highly recommend it! Most of the wedding communities I found (forums and FB) were kind of... weird? Judgmental? I'm not sure how to put it exactly, but r/weddingplanning was the chillest and most helpful one for me personally. Just in case that might help you out :)
visitors can't see pics , please register or login

Offline Artemesia's Garden

  • Trade Count: (+24)
  • Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 3991
  • Flicker Flame... Thanks to Brightberry!
    • Things I make and Do
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #6 on: September 02, 2019, 01:26:08 PM »
Its getting more and more common to have a honeymoon fund instead of a registry, but I've seen a lot of people say that some of their guests ignored or were uncomfortable with the fund. They either asked what the couple needed/wanted or bought entirely random things the couple had no use/space for. I'd suggest having a small registry, even if its not the typical wedding registry stuff, in case you have any guests like that.


As a sidenote the Wedding Planning sub on Reddit was a HUGE help when I was planning a wedding and I highly recommend it! Most of the wedding communities I found (forums and FB) were kind of... weird? Judgmental? I'm not sure how to put it exactly, but r/weddingplanning was the chillest and most helpful one for me personally. Just in case that might help you out :)


Asking for money towards the honeymoon happens quite often around here. Johns is a photographer so our gift is usually that he takes their weddingpictures for free, but I know of at least three couples who asked for honeymoon cash :).

It's great that you always have a good option on hand! Thanks that's good to know.

I had a look at online and I'm really struggling to find an online registry system based in the UK that would work. I kinda like the stuff I already have and it does feel strange asking people for household items. I planned our wedding myself without referring to stuff online much because I kinda guessed it might not be my style and I didn't want to get lots of adverts.

Thank you I'll have a look on reddit as well. Thank you yes that is helpful.
« Last Edit: September 02, 2019, 01:44:48 PM by Artemesia's Garden »
:heart: ISO G1 Daffodil, Cha Cha, Baby Lucky Leaf, Baby Candy, Red Roses...G3 Daffodil, Flower Wishes and Candy Cane, Baby Northern Lights...Tirek's pointy forky staff-thing from Canterlot Castle playset :heart: Pony Page :heart: Wish List :heart:
:green: Formerly known as 'Artemesia Floc' Thank you to Kiwi for chaging this for me!  :green:

Offline reddsetgogirl

  • Trade Count: (+83)
  • Sweet Scoops Pony w/Charm
  • *****
  • Posts: 2081
  • Gender: Female
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #7 on: September 05, 2019, 03:43:44 PM »
I think a nice way to phrase it was how a friend of mine did.  She set it up as a “buy us a meal” while they honeymooned.  This meant some people were gifting them a fine dining experience while others paid for a more modest but still enjoyable dinner.  It was a way for people to give them a memory and feel included without it coming across as them wanting their honeymoon paid for, etc.

You will always have traditionalists who would prefer to give a physical gift.  In that case, I would consider making a registry of not things you don’t have, as most living together couples have that well and truly covered by the time they marry but rather upgrading things you have to something nicer/more modern.  Likewise, “experience” gifts are popular, anything from spa treatments for two to hot air ballon rides.
Follow me on Instagram: @theponiesiownies
Most wanted: Lil Litter Nursery Families teal Persian kitten and Nursery Families white bathtub.

Offline Aflame

  • Trade Count: (+32)
  • Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 4445
  • Gender: Female
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #8 on: September 05, 2019, 04:07:02 PM »
well I'm going to do that as me and my OH have been living together for ages and don't need any stuff so we are going to have a honeymoon fund instead :)

Offline dragonfly

  • Administrator
  • Trade Count: (+65)
  • Thailand Tornado Mountain Boy
  • *
  • Posts: 30404
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #9 on: September 12, 2019, 06:37:19 PM »
I used to hear that it's tacky and a faux pas, but there are sites dedicated to that specifically so evidently it's quite popular. I'd contribute to one if one of my friends set one up as their gift. Not really any different than buying off a registry.

Offline Artemesia's Garden

  • Trade Count: (+24)
  • Rapunzel Pony
  • *****
  • Posts: 3991
  • Flicker Flame... Thanks to Brightberry!
    • Things I make and Do
Re: Honeymoon fund as an alternative to a wedding list...
« Reply #10 on: September 13, 2019, 01:17:21 AM »
Yeah I think weddings can be kinda tacky whichever way you look at it but the fact is we already have loads of stuff between us, so what on earth to do? Well here is what I wrote in the end, not in the invitaitions but in the 'Practical Guide'

Gifts
Steve and I have been very touched by the enquiries about gifts. We are very thankful for the support of both our families and all our friends. Your presence at our wedding is gift enough however if you do wish to make a gesture, we would be more than pleased to accept donations to our honeymoon fund. It might be a while before we are able to go away, but we will send postcards to let everyone know how we get on.

Ta da. Too late to change it now lol
:heart: ISO G1 Daffodil, Cha Cha, Baby Lucky Leaf, Baby Candy, Red Roses...G3 Daffodil, Flower Wishes and Candy Cane, Baby Northern Lights...Tirek's pointy forky staff-thing from Canterlot Castle playset :heart: Pony Page :heart: Wish List :heart:
:green: Formerly known as 'Artemesia Floc' Thank you to Kiwi for chaging this for me!  :green: