To the person who made a private offer to buy a rare UK item on ebay...

[Taffeta]

Spoiler

I was the high bidder on this item.

Today with no explanation I got a refund on my order.

I am very upset. This item is very rare and something I have wanted since 1987.

Friday is my birthday.

I have been dealing with a lot of stuff of late, and this was something important to me.

This item is so rare that possibly no others exist.

This means that having this item will reveal to everyone here that you made a private offer behind a fellow collector's back to deprive them of their item. And that will be found out. And I will be making sure everyone knows that it happened.

Please retract your offer on the item immediately. It is not honourable to steal other people;s auction wins.

If not, I will openly state what the item is here, who the seller was, and I will alert people to what item to look out for in people's collection comments, photos and otherwise.

Please do the right thing. Ponypeople do not stab each other in the back.

Original post in spoilers for integrity of discussion.

Quick summary update.

Turns out the auction was a fraud all along with a stolen image. I've got the link to the other auction courtesy of babydoll.

If anyone wants to make any kind of silly remark about this, please don;t.

I am very upset.

Glad that ultimately no ponyperson stabbed me in the back.

But still, very upset.

Thank you.

[KC8114]

I'm so sorry  .  I hope it gets straightened out and you get the item!!

[SpaceButtPonies]

That is a terrible thing to do, I'm sorry this happened to you.

[Safflower]

I hope it is resolved! And I hope that we find the reason why it wasn't sold to you and who else got it. That isn't okay!

[Mewtwofan1]

Oh that’s terrible. I don’t know who did it, but I’ll keep my eyes open. Sounds like a really important thing, shame someone did this.

[Leave a Whisper]

I don't understand why someone would do that. If you pay, it's yours. End of story.

[Taffeta]

I don't understand why someone wouls do that. If you pay, it's yours. End of story.

I agree and I left the Jem community because of people thinking they were more important than anyone else and the rules. This private offer thing used to happen a lot there and I know the signs. Rule in the Jem comm was that if you actually received it, then it was yours, but the auction didn't always end when the actual auction ended because of backstabbing offers.

If it's not a private offer, I don't understand why the seller hasn't sent a message to explain. But if it is, I feel like someone here might have done it. And that hurts a whole lot more.

If you bid and you don't win, then that's life. If you can't afford it when it comes up, that's life. If your PC crashes or you miss the auction, that's life. If someone else gets there first, that's life. If you bid and you win, you expect to get your item. Simple as that. I've never scammed anyone in my life. Never lied to anyone I've sold to or traded with, Never cheated anyone on ebay, never taken a private offer or made one, either. No matter how much I have wanted an item, I've never done any of those things. I couldn't live with anything in my collection coming through dishonest means.

[Ponyfan]

I am so sorry Taffeta.

Ponyfan

[Skeen]

I want to know what the item was anyway, because I'm nosy and love merch. 

So sorry that happened, Taffeta.  Some people seem to think their wants are more important than others'. 

[glitterball]

What happened, Taffeta?

I am nosy too - what was it that you had bid on?

Bummer that the item was rare... it sucks when you are let down after being excited about getting a grail 

[Taffeta]

I am not saying because I am waiting to hear from the seller and get an explanation. Just in case I am wrong...

[Reena]

This is really horrible and underhand. I hope that you get your item and that it all works out for you.

Please do let us know what it was when the situation is resolved?

[glitterball]

I am not saying because I am waiting to hear from the seller and get an explanation. Just in case I am wrong...

Ah, cool  Crossing my fingers for you that it was broken rather than gazumped.

[Moonbreeze]

Oh no, that's awful Taffeta
I hope you can get things sorted out with seller. >.<

[lovesbabysquirmy]

Heartbreaking if your suspicions are indeed the case.  *hugs*