Dating horror stories

[northstar3184]

Oh I've got several, I'll share one new and maybe I'll share others later:

I met this guy through some friends for a blind date. He wanted to take me and show me where he lived 45 minutes away from where I had just started college at the time. Turns out he lived with a married couple, their two kids, and a friend of the husband's. Anyway, we watched a movie. He made multiple advances obviously expecting things to go somewhere that night; I was honest and told him I wasn't interested in anything more than friendship. He went in his room, locked the door and cried for an hour. When he came out, he said it was late and he'd take me home the next day. I was stunned, but didn't have a phone and wasn't familiar with where I was. So I VERY reluctantly agreed. I slept on the couch. The next morning, the guy got up and headed out the door. I asked where he was going, I had to get back to my dorm. He told me he had scheduled visitation with his daughter and wouldn't be back until late in the evening! Then he just left, stranding me with these people I didn't know. The couple and the children left also, leaving me alone with the husband's friend and a female friend of my blind date who decided to make out on the couch next to me. My blind date came back at like 10:00p.m. I wanted to leave but he said before he took me home he had to buy everyone pizza first. This whole thing was just absolutely insane. I didn't get back to my dorm until close to midnight (more than 24 hours after I'd left).

[Ponyfan]

Mine seem kind of minor in comparison to most of these and they're not really dating stories because things never got that far but I'll share them anyway. In junior and high school I wasn't well liked and didn't have many friends.

There was this guy who started being nice to me and asking me to sit with him at lunch. I thought someone was finally starting to like me and show a genuine  interest in me only to find out later that he was only being nice to me because someone put him up to it just so they could laugh at me.

Ponyfan

I'm so sorry A similar thing happened to me in high school.

Thank you BlackCurtains. Sadly that was pretty typical of my junior high and high school days. I'm a really nice person but while everyone else always had people to hang out and do stuff with I was usually left out and made fun of for no reason. I had to go to both of my proms alone. It wasn't so bad the first year because there were a few other girls that didn't have dates but by the time senior prom came I was the only one without a date.


Ponyfan

[ponycake]

I didn't know it was a horror story. He started off seeming extremely mature for his age, he was very intelligent, he said the sweetest things all the time and did sweet things for me and always offered to do other sweet things for me.. like fix things, detail my car, etc. Eventually he talked about marriage, kids, etc, and I was just like that's pretty soon, let's not talk about that yet, but yeah I could see it in the future. The first time he asked me out I said no because of his age, being young 20s, the second time I agreed and went out with him. It was great for a few months... until he I guess got stressed out from working too much and only wanted to see me or speak to me when it was convenient for him. Tried to be understanding and weather the storm but he just blatantly didn't respect my feelings anymore. He would take forever to get back to me. Say he was coming over but end up drunk somewhere. Just wtf?

It's a nice refresher to NOT rush into marriage or kids or anything like that. Because he completely had me fooled as a genuinely good person who wouldn't hurt me, and then he completely completely changed.

[Gingerbread]

I've had a few stalkers. They are fun. Not. 

I once went on a first date (POF you you have a lot to answer for  ) He seemed a nice enough chap, a bit older than me. Anyway I turned up to the pub where we were meeting, and he comes across, buys me a drink, is all nice and then introduces his MOTHER as he thought it would be OK to invite her on a first date.  I *may* have set my alarm on my phone so it sounded like someone was ringing me, so I had to leave....

[lovesbabysquirmy]

I. the ex who took me to meet his mother: she was readying the "daughter-in-law suite" so she and he could kidnap me, trap me, and make grandbabies from me....  Yeah, bye!

II.  the ex who declared to MY mom, that his professional goal in life  was to grow illegal mushrooms

III.  the ex who took me out to dinner, then when he finished eating, loudly shouted at me, "Do you want my scraps?!" loud enough that others stared at us...

IV.  the ex who decided that he was too awkward to ask my age, then invited me to a show at a bar, then had the perfect excuse to dump me at the front doors of the show because, "I don't want to date a 19-year-old!"  My retort that the bouncer heard, that kept them out of the club: "And this did not matter 2 hours ago when we were having sex on your couch!!!"

northstar3184, we may have met the same person, LOL !!!

V.  the ex who I met up with from online, well, he was just a friend and we were seeing if there would be chemistry, you know?  and well... there wasn't.  so he went back to his bathroom and HOWLED with hysterical tears and WAILING for the rest of the night.  I had to physically man-handle him out of my presence in the morning because he thought that he could Try Again and Glomp-Cuddle-Cling in public!!!! 

[NightGliderSA]

Oh my GOSH! There are some amazingly horrible horror stories 

And sadly I have a few myself:

Firstly, the one that never was and never would be a date. Ever. He was old and ugly and I was MARRIED. He was the guy at the garage where I had taken my car to be repaired. Anyway he insisted that we took the car for a test drive to check everything was ok. Then after 2 minutes turned to me and said: "Do you feel what I feel?" WTF?!

There was a guy who I met in a club who seemed really nice. Then the people who I had been with left and he said I could sleep over at his place that night because the previously mentioned people had left with my handbag containing my house keys. Anyway, we drove back to his place with all his friends - who shot at each other and bridges and road signs along the way. Then as we got to the place where they all stayed the one friend told me that I must tell everyone that I was with HIM. - What? Turns out first guy was engaged and the fiance was staying there too. So I 'slept' the night on the couch. But first guy turned up in the middle of the night after his fiance was asleep and wanted to 'get busy'. I told him to forget it as he was engaged and why hadn't he told me this before?

Then there was the ex who was actually a very charming person. But who drank; and that changed his personality completely. He was employed in sales and drove a BMW when we met so I was lulled into thinking he was a successful person. Turns out he was blacklisted and everything we bought 'together' had to be financed in my name. He also lost his job and car while we were together and made no effort to regain either. So I had to drive him around or lend him my car.

We were together for 3 years - luckily not married - and near the end he would literally lie down behind my car to prevent me from leaving the house. When I finally broke it off with him we were sharing a small rented house and he said he couldn't afford the rent to stay there but could he have a week to clear his things out? I agreed and moved back after a week. That night he turned up absolutely out of his tree drunk with his friend in tow and broke into 'his' house. I left that night and moved my things out the next morning. Fun times.

[Safflower]

I once had to break up with a boyfriend. He screamed "YAY! IM FREE!" after I was out of earshot, according to my best friend who was near him at the time.

[Mami Tomoe]

I. the ex who took me to meet his mother: she was readying the "daughter-in-law suite" so she and he could kidnap me, trap me, and make grandbabies from me....  Yeah, bye!

II.  the ex who declared to MY mom, that his professional goal in life  was to grow illegal mushrooms

III.  the ex who took me out to dinner, then when he finished eating, loudly shouted at me, "Do you want my scraps?!" loud enough that others stared at us...

IV.  the ex who decided that he was too awkward to ask my age, then invited me to a show at a bar, then had the perfect excuse to dump me at the front doors of the show because, "I don't want to date a 19-year-old!"  My retort that the bouncer heard, that kept them out of the club: "And this did not matter 2 hours ago when we were having sex on your couch!!!"

northstar3184, we may have met the same person, LOL !!!

V.  the ex who I met up with from online, well, he was just a friend and we were seeing if there would be chemistry, you know?  and well... there wasn't.  so he went back to his bathroom and HOWLED with hysterical tears and WAILING for the rest of the night.  I had to physically man-handle him out of my presence in the morning because he thought that he could Try Again and Glomp-Cuddle-Cling in public!!!!

the illegal mushrooms

[DazzleKitty]

Dang, you all. Some of these stories are awful. The dating scheme sometimes sucks, doesn't it?

I met a guy on POF and we had one date and he disappeared. He appeared again a year or two later and wanted to date again. We got into conversations about hobbies (we both love anime). I also mentioned my dog, who is precious to me and only gets high quality food. He said if we get together, we have to be married in one year and I cannot buy my dog high quality food. I also mentioned how my mom and I like to go to the casino one time, and he said he would have to set a limit on that too. Really setting the bar early on, eh? I texted him after the date and told him he was too controlling and had issues. To his credit, he did apologize. But I never went out with him again after that. You don't lay out the life rules on a second date like that. Things happen naturally.
We went to an anime convention together too and I will say he did something very adult and inappropriate. He was disgusting.

I met another guy from POF. Right from the get go, alarm bells were singing in my head that this guy was a major creeper. He told me he had a pending case for statutory rape and when he met my parents (yes on the first date.....it was weird), he used excessively foul language. He also tried to sneak me off to do things I did NOT want to do. I found out he is now a registered sex offender, and failed to register when he moved, and is now in prison. Odd thing was, I worked with his brother for a while.    Credit to his brother, he was so ashamed of him he changed his last name to his wife's so he would not be associated with is brother in any way. You cannot help who you are related to.

This is more of an ex story. I was dating a guy who broke up with me after my two brothers were shot (one killed). His reason for breaking up was his job, and he "didn't want to be a crutch for my dead brother."  He also said my brother is "just another statistic" to everyone, and no one in the world cares except us. I stupidly took him back after he lost his job and needed a sugar momma. He expected me to pay for all the dates. He showed no physical affection and cringed to hug me. I was just a money pit to him. I was a MORON for taking him back. I chopped the relationship off recently. Good riddance.

I am single now. My standards are very high. I wont settle.

[Pokeyonekenobie]

I've had so many bad dates I'm considering turning them into a novel for Nanowrimo!  Here are a couple for your viewing pleasure:

My Junior Prom, i got asked to go and a WEEK before prom the guy came to me and said that I was going to get a single ticket and he was going to take a girl who had dropped out on a doubles ticket because she couldn't by herself since she'd dropped out.  So my older brother (who also dropped out earlier that year) agreed to take me.  As soon as we got there, my brother ditched me to smoke pot with his friends and I spent the evening being the fifth wheel with all my friends who had actual dates.  Since I was friends with some of the guys as well as the girls, I did get to dance a couple of songs but I still spent most of the time sitting by myself.  For my senior prom I didn't even bother to go.  I didn't have a date and since I'd moved my senior year (thanks, Air Force), I didn't have a lot of friends I could have hung out with.  Most of my friends were younger than me and therefore couldn't go to prom because it was only for Juniors and Seniors.  My friends and I decided to go play laser tag instead.  And even then, one of my friends had severe social anxiety so I ended up spending the night sitting outside the laser tag place with her instead of playing.  Everyone else said it was a lot of fun...

My younger brother and his wife have set me up on a couple of blind dates.
The first one was while my brother and his wife were still dating.  She knew a single guy and my brother offered to make it a double date since neither of us had ever met the guy before.  I agreed and then my SIL said that the guy's sister and her husband wanted to come along and make it a triple date.  So we agreed to meet at a place called Fat Cats.  They have a pizza parlour that's connected to a bowling alley, mini golf course, and an arcade.  The plan was to eat dinner and then play games while we waited for an open lane to bowl.  Well...things didn't turn out that way.  The guy's sister's husband had to work so instead of just bowing out, she brought their younger brother as her date.  So you've got me, my brother, his (now) wife, the guy, the guy's sister and the guy's little brother.  Granted, he agreed to pay for my dinner.  But things kind of went downhill after that.  My brother and his wife tried to get the sister and brother to separate from us, but that only lasted about a minute. Basically, the guy ended up spending more time with his brother than me.  And even though I won the most tickets, he decided what all our prizes were going to be.  We ended up not going bowling because my brother accidentally gave them the wrong number to text us when the lane was ready (he'd just gotten a new number so it wasn't intentional) so we went to get ice cream instead.  While we were eating ice cream, the guy was texting back and forth with his brother, who was sitting next to him at the table, instead of talking to me.  My SIL finally texted me and asked if I wanted them to come up with an excuse to leave (since I'd ridden down with them).  I told her to get me out of there. 

The other blind date they set me up on was with a new guy at her work.  This time, we didn't double.  I met him at another place that has pizza, bowling, and arcade games.  This one was a little better.  He paid for everything and we talked the whole time but nothing really clicked.  He asked if I wanted to go out again (and because it wasn't horrible) I agreed.  I asked if he wanted my number but he said that he'd just get it from my SIL.  Yeah right.  I knew right then that he wasn't going to call me.  My SIL has told me since that she's glad we didn't get along because that guy is really annoying at work.  I've told her to quit setting me up with people she finds annoying because if I decide to fall for them I will expect her to be nice to him.  That might be why they haven't been so gung-ho about setting me up lately.  (But really, when your only qualification is "he likes Disney and you like Disney" is it any wonder that this isn't working?)

I can't imagine why I'm not in any hurry to date...

[northstar3184]

A couple other dating horror stories:

1) I went out with a guy I met online for coffee. I didn't think we clicked (nothing bad), and we never went out again. Fast forward about five years. I walked into a job interview and my interviewer, and the HR guy for the company, is that same guy! He asks me during the interview why we never went out again. Then, he slipped me his phone #. He offered me the job, and because I needed the money I accepted. Training was to start in a couple weeks. He started calling my house saying he wanted me to come hang out with him, sending me IMs asking me to come to his house to fool around, etc... To top it all off, the guy's ex was going to be my supervisor. I just knew that this was going to put me in a very ugly predicament, so I ended up calling before the training was to start and said I was declining the job offer.

2) I dated a guy for a couple weeks during my junior year of college. He quickly showed a very possessive side and was VERY, VERY heterophobic. I lived in a men's dorm, so of course I hung out with my guy friends, all of whom were straight. My friends were eager to meet him, and he'd fight me on it saying he didn't want to meet them, all straight men are jerks, they can't really be my friends if they're straight, etc...Even when he met them, he was very bitter saying they all must be fake, etc.... I had surgery coming up and a couple days before the surgery, he started telling me that he expected me to choose between him and my male friends. I said, "Okay, then I pick my friends."

We kept in touch as friends. A couple years later he sent me a message on AIM and asking me to marry him! I thought it was a joke, so I said "haha, very funny". But he was dead serious. He wanted us to marry and move in together right away. I tried to get him to see how absurd the idea was. I told him that we weren't in relationship, I didn't love him, and pointed out he had an 8 year old child I'd never even met that he wanted be to be a step-father to. Then I asked given the low wage I was earning and him being unemployed, how that would work. He said we could sell our possessions to pay for the wedding. It was just a surreal conversation. The kicker was his marriage proposal which I will quote verbatim: "Jeff (insert last name here), will you marry me?" I was dumbstruck. I said, "You're proposing marriage, and you can't even remember my last name!!"

[Stormness_1]

LOl @ that marriage proposal! That's hilarious! Funny story (not a horror though, but let's lighten this up a bit!) I did get asked out by an ex the day before my wedding for the night of my wedding - he did seem like a genuinely nice guy though, but he got a girl pregnant when they were seriously young, and admittedly the last thing I'd said to him on the subject of dating was that I wasn't ready for step-mum status at 18, maybe in a few years. It was 4 years later, and he called me out of the blue, maybe we should catch up tomorrow night, see if we could pick things up where they left off? So I obviously told him that that wouldn't work, because I'm actually getting married tomorrow.. and thankfully he saw the funny side of that. But dude, ask around! All my friends obviously knew I was getting married, and we'd originally met through friends, so...

[BlackCurtains]

I guess reading this thread knocked a memory loose.

We weren't dating, he was a friend of a friend and we were hanging out just us for the first time. Everything was going fine but then he started talking about how he knew me in a past life. He said stuff like he knew we belonged together and I would know it too if I just kissed him.

Uh. No.

[northstar3184]

LOl @ that marriage proposal! That's hilarious! Funny story (not a horror though, but let's lighten this up a bit!) I did get asked out by an ex the day before my wedding for the night of my wedding - he did seem like a genuinely nice guy though, but he got a girl pregnant when they were seriously young, and admittedly the last thing I'd said to him on the subject of dating was that I wasn't ready for step-mum status at 18, maybe in a few years. It was 4 years later, and he called me out of the blue, maybe we should catch up tomorrow night, see if we could pick things up where they left off? So I obviously told him that that wouldn't work, because I'm actually getting married tomorrow.. and thankfully he saw the funny side of that. But dude, ask around! All my friends obviously knew I was getting married, and we'd originally met through friends, so...

That's funny timing.