UPDATE!
so i finally received my package! i only just remembered i should post about it on here, but it arrived about 2 weeks ago
i hadn't had any more communication back off the seller after explaining to him that it was his responsibility to keep proof of postage for these kind of situations and that i wanted a refund, and as it was just getting to the point that i was going to email AGAIN after receiving no response, the package finally turned up. i just sent a thank you to him after that and apologised for harassing him so much over the past few months.
it wasn't until after i'd thanked him that i actually looked at the package properly. my items were fine and everything, but then i was looking at the mexican stamps because they were quite different to english ones, and i noticed the post mark. it's for 01 March 2012. the post mark labels the package with the date that it goes into the care of the postal system, the bar-steward only posted it at the beginning of March. i can't believe that he was assuring me it was on it's way for months when he didn't even give it in at the post office until after i'd demanded my refund. what a joke D:
thank you all for your help concerning the postage from mexico though! what a pain to find out that it wasn't even that in the end, just a really useless seller. warning to anyone else who likes witch house music, don't buy merch from Ritualz! >___<
xx